Unemployment frustrations

[Amanda_George]

Maybe not, but it'll look good on your CV when you get invited for interviews      

[stewart]

It is indeed a case not who you know, not what you know, (or how big a brown nose one is willing to be)
unfortunatly the ideas of a keynesian philosophy to kick start the economy are long gone 
and anyone looking for work has to battle through all the cheep labour some employers get from places like poland

[lostmyway]

I've been having a terrible week. I did a weeks work with an agency, and went in the following monday. I got a call telling me I wasn't needed as the client had a full compliment of staff.  The message was supposed to be relayed back on Friday but didnt get the full message, It was left out by the recruitment consultant.  My mother is driving me utterly insane.  I cannot have a basic and civilised convo anymore (she is 81).  I tried to explain the week in hand principle but she had literally no clue what I was on about.  I am pretty sure she had bad memory loss thesedays.
She has needed a haircut for literally months and WILL NOT do anything about it.

I am so bloody sick of everything, it's not even funny.  I can really feel myself getting 'more sad' every single day, more angry, more frustrated, more irritated.  I am literally at the end of my rope now.  Everything is setting me off, mostly by my mother whos memory is shocking thesedays.  I am very worried as I dont know how much stress I can take anymore

[Amanda_George]

I don't know what to say to help other than I sort of understand and I care.  Unload here whenever you need to and I'll read, even if I don't know what to say   

[lostmyway]

I went to my GP yesterday. His diagnosis? " I guess you're a 'glass half-empty kind of person'. How VERY scientific... Not really helpful.   

[Amanda_George]

!!!  Is he the only GP in the surgery or are there other ones you can maybe see instead who have a better bedside manner than the idiot you saw?   

[lostmyway]

Well there are other GPs at the surgery that I could possibly make an appointment with.  He was saying that I'm naturally  pessimistic (realistic maybe, but whatever).  Maybe if he lived my life for 6 months, we will see whether he gets depressed or not.    I'm possibly at the lowest point I have been for years, this isn't how I am supposed to feel everyday.  Try living with an 82 year old, having no job, no social circle, no chance of making my own life for myself.  I have just turned 46 and things haven't worked out, am I supposed to be elated with glee about that? Is that the normal expected reaction to a situation like this?  I don't think so !!

So maybe depression and anxiety is just attention seeking behaviour, and psychosomatic then?, as it would have had more medical credence. 

[Amanda_George]

Sounds like you would be better with someone else as your GP!  If it's attention seeking and psychosomatic then there are millions of people who are easily cured, so why aren't they?  Oh yeah, because it's an illness just like cancer and Parkinson's and things like that!  Grrr!   

Have you got any other surgery's in your area that you could change to?  My previous GP surgery was like yours until I changed to another one who respect me as a person as well as a patient unlike my previous one!

Maybe phone/email the CAB and Benefits Agency to see if they can help you as well?

[lostmyway]

At the end I just want help.  I don't care who the GP is.  His flippant attitude is out of order... no empathy whatsoever. 

[Amanda_George]

And you deserve to be helped too!  Maybe ask to see one of the other doctors and take it from there?

[lostmyway]

I could see another GP.  Not entirely sure what he/she can honestly do about it.  Different medication? counselling? therapy?  What else is there?

[Amanda_George]

There's tests to make sure that your vitamin levels aren't low 'cos vitamins D and B12 really made a difference to my mood!  There's being able to see things that your current GP might have missed.  They may be able to come up with other ideas for you and hopefully they will actually listen to you.  Maybe they could refer you to a specialist and just generally support you more than your current GP is doing   

[lostmyway]

Yeah probably. Anything is worth a shot right now.  I don't really know why things have turned out the way they have, I wish I knew.  But it doesn't seem fair to me.

[Pip]

I agree with Amanda and it's worth seeing another GP.  The practise I'm with has three surgeries and I tend to book online so I can choose who I see.  If it's an ongoing thing I will ring up, for example I found out I am anaemic so have been on iron tablets. 

[lostmyway]

It's always easy for some to judge others when they aren't going through the same thing themselves (GP).   Some doctors' bedside manner is distinctly lacking at times.  Karma can come to bite people on the backside if they aren't careful.  The levels of sadness and hopelessness are not something to be scoffed at and be flippant about... Some people have no clue, you are either empathic for others, or you are not.  I'm not sure it is something you can be taught.