Here i am again

[Catbrian]

woozy perhaps if he is asking for joint counselling now then it might be good to give it a bash.  It sounds like you get along really well.  Perhaps there is still common ground.  Sometimes when our depression is lowest we misinterpret things around us. You mention he isn't the reason for your depression but perhaps you need space away from him to work through what is causing your depression.

[woozywoo]

Had a consultant meeting 2day,which went well.

I have been off work for 3weeks now,2more are planned and then maybe more. Consultant doesn't think i should return until Sept. And at the moment,i am feeling that to.

But basically have had a call from the school asking me if i will write the end of year reports for the children. I told my consultant and she said that is not aceptable a that thke head shouldn't be asking that of me. I just wondered what the other ppl and teachers views on here were. I am at the stage me writing a timetable with my consultant in terms of my daily routine,just 2 give am indication of where i am personally. I couldn't say no to the reports,but i am not up to doin them otherwise i would be working.

[Buttercup]

Hi Woozywoo

Personally, I don't think they should have asked you to do them, you're off sick!!!!!   The uncaring attitude that some people show just annoys me!!

I think it would be too much for you to write the reports, lets face it they're hard enough to do when you're perfectly well, let alone ill.   I understand that you feel it's your professional responsibility and that you owe it to the children but you also have to think of yourself.

Just after I went off sick my school asked me to do an informal parents evening, I did the first night, when my GP found out, lets just say he was not amused and wrote a letter saying that I was too ill to do the other one or to make any decisions with regard to my future.  This actually made it easier for me as it wasn't me saying no, if that makes sense.  I wonder if you could do something similar.

xxx

[woozywoo]

My consultant has offered on several occasions 2 write to the head teacher.

I am worried about how the head teacher will treat me when i return to work at the school though.

I just want it to be taken out of my hands,i dont want anything to do with it.

[whiteadder]

They are not allowed to pressure you to work whilst you're off sick. I think that even asking you to do so may be illegal. Perhaps a letter from your doctor would be helpful. How are you supposed to get better if they don't allow you time away from work pressures?! This is so wrong.

Now there is an option on your Dr's note for the Dr to say you 1. are unfit to work (FULL STOP) or 2. You could work with support or a phased return. Unless this was ticked, your school need to back off and leave you alone!

Hope this doesn't affect your recovery too much Woozy :)

x

[Sweetpea]

I am not a teacher, but I think this is very wrong, you are off sick because you are ill.  If you were ok you would be at work.  You do not need the pressure of writing reports.

S x x x x

[Zaf]

I agree with everyone above

Z xxx

[Catbrian]

 />.I totaly agree with everyone....the school have a bit of a cheek. You would not get anymore thanks for your efforts, anyway, I'd email them or get someone to write/phone. You are too unwell and that's the end of it.  I'm sure it's against the law for them to even contact you during sick leave. Some people take the p ....

[Buttercup]

I am worried about how the head teacher will treat me when i return to work at the school though.

I can understand that, but at the moment I think you need to concentrate on you. They really shouldn't have asked you.

Xxx

[woozywoo]

I have decided that i am not in the right frame of mind to be able to write the reports.

But what do i do now,i dont feel like i can talk to the headacher because Im not sure what her reaction will be. I know i need to let her know asap!

It is acceptable to take the consultant up on her offer to call or write to the head for me? I just give up will all this!

[Zaf]

I would definitely ask your consultant to send that letter xx

[Sweetpea]

I agree if it was me I would get your consultant to send a letter to the Head.

S x x x x

[woozywoo]

Do you think a letter is sufficient,or should i contact her as well?

[Sweetpea]

Maybe write her a letter, explaining that you are not up to doing any work as your consultant advised you not to.  Or something along those lines.

S x x x x

[Zaf]

It might be a good idea :)  xx