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The family photo in my email inbox shook me to my core. It exposed a Nazi secret so sickening, I told my husband: 'I don't want to do this anymore'

By HARRIET ALEXANDER, US SENIOR FEATURES WRITER

Published: 00:44, 2 December 2025 | Updated: 16:01, 2 December 2025

Christine Kuehn had been digging into her family history for over 25 years when a photograph landed in her inbox and stopped her in her tracks.  The black and white picture from 1937 was of her uncle, Leopold, on his wedding day in Berlin. The bride wore a white flowing gown and carried a bouquet of flowers.  The 25-year-old groom wore something far more sinister: a black uniform, with a swastika proudly displayed on his arm.  'I'll be honest, I said to my husband: "I don't want to do this anymore,"' said Kuehn, 62, speaking to the Daily Mail from her Maryland home. 'Before it had all just been words on a page; reading the National Archives; reading books.  But to see my own family member in a Nazi uniform hit me at my core to think that I could be related to someone that would think that way about other human beings. That was really, really hard for me.'

Yet something stronger than the revulsion and shame sparked by that photograph propelled her forward. It was the sense, Kuehn said, that it was finally time to lift the lid on her family's devastating past.  The result is 'Family of Spies,' published on November 25. In it, Kuehn, a journalist and mother to two sons and a daughter, chronicles her family's extraordinary Nazi past and the devastating role her grandfather played in Pearl Harbor, America's 'Day of Infamy.'  Perhaps most astonishing is the story of her aunt Ruth, who she knew as an elderly woman still striking-looking and rather intimidating who lived in a retirement community in Charleston, South Carolina.  For several months in 1935 Ruth, then just 19, was the mistress of Joseph Goebbels, Hitler's propaganda chief.  Her teenage entanglement with the married Nazi commander altered the course not only of her family's history but of America's as, along with other family members, she aided and abetted the Japanese strikes on Pearl Harbor.  Kuehn questioned her aunt about that history, but Ruth always shut her down.  'You have a good life. You don't want to ruin it with the past,' she told Kuehn during their first ever meeting, in 1987, when Ruth was 72.

Kuehn had caught sight of a black and white wedding photo, of the people she suspected were her grandparents, and asked Ruth to tell her more.  'You don't need to know about them,' said Ruth. 'Don't ask me anymore. You have a good life. Nothing good can come from it. You don't need to know about the family, the past, or Pearl Harbor.'

Her words haunted Kuehn, who couldn't shake her need to know more. In 1994, she embarked on her 30-year quest for the truth.  Ruth's story began back in Berlin, Germany. Her mother, Friedel, was in a relationship with a well-known architect, and gave birth to Ruth in 1915. But they broke up, and in 1920 Friedel married a businessman, Otto Kuehn, who raised Ruth as his own.  By the time Ruth was in her mid-teens her stepfather and older brother Leopold had become passionate supporters of the recently elected Adolf Hitler.  Otto and Leopold saw Hitler speak in 1930 at Kiel, on the Baltic Coast: Otto joined the party the next day, while Leopold signed up to join the Storm Troopers. Friedel became a member of the women's league; Ruth followed suit and joined the Hitler Youth.  Leopold rose rapidly through the ranks and established the family on the Nazi social scene. It was he who invited his teenage sister to the 1935 gala hosted by Goebbels, where the 37-year-old propaganda chief was enchanted by the 'young, pretty, high-spirited' Ruth. The pair became lovers.  But, several months later, Goebbels discovered that Ruth's biological father was Jewish. He called off the relationship and needed her 'gone,' Kuehn writes: the Nazis were about to enact the Nuremberg Laws, which outlawed sexual relations between Germans and Jews.  By the end of the year, the family had vanished from Germany. Otto, Friedel, Ruth and her younger brothers Eberhard (Kuehn's father), then nine, and two-year-old Hans all traveled to Hawaii. Only Leopold, by then a high-ranking Storm Trooper, remained.  Kuehn had always known that her father grew up in Hawaii, but she had never known how he got there.  Her research revealed that Otto and Friedel had been dispatched to the American state on Nazi orders, to assist the Japanese with their spying on Pearl Harbor.  Over the course of three years, from 1936 to 1939, Kuehn's grandfather Otto was paid the equivalent today of over $1 million for his work.  He was committed to it as were his wife and teenage daughter, Ruth.  In the early days of researching her family, Kuehn had come across a section on Ruth in a book entitled 'The World's 30 Greatest Women Spies.'  'There, in black and white, right next to Mata Hari, was aunt Ruth,' she writes. 'My sweet little old aunt Ruth? I thought. It was more than shocking.'

She discovered how her family hosted lavish gatherings at their Hawaiian home, milking their guests for gossip about the nearby military base.  Friedel and Ruth set up a hair salon, where they would listen intently while the wives of the military men chatted freely about the goings on at Pearl Harbor.  The FBI was monitoring their activity closely, wondering how the family with no discernible income could live so luxuriously.  And they were hardly subtle. In January 1941, the gossip column of The Hawaii Sentinel wondered 'when the deportation of the local Nazi family is going to be announced' and 'what the little lady of the trio [Ruth] was up to in her playing around with the local gold braid boys.'

Otto even built a dormer window on his house, looking out across the bay, so he could signal to the Japanese submarines when they came to launch their attack.  'She was such an enigmatic figure,' writes Kuehn of Ruth. 'It was tough to reconcile the woman I had come to know with the tales of her scandalous affairs with Nazi henchmen and femme fatale–style espionage pursuits.'

The 1941 attack on Pearl Harbor, orchestrated with Otto's help, brought all their worlds crashing down. His work contributed to the death of 2,400 Americans and forced the United States to enter the Second World War.  'I felt as if I was sinking into shock,' writes Kuehn of the discovery. 'My sweet aunt Ruth signaling to Japanese bombers from the house my father grew up in, and conspiring to kill American sailors, launching the United States into a horrific war that decimated millions? My grandfather plotting the downfall of my country? It couldn't be true.'

But as she plowed through hundreds of pages of FBI files and Justice Department documents, the truth was undeniable.  Otto was the only person ever tried for his role in the attack.  Kuehn's father, Eberhard, then 15, and his nine-year-old brother Hans were forced to testify against their father, who half-heartedly admitted his crimes but showed no remorse.  'I know I am in a certain sense guilty,' Otto told the court. 'I know I never should have done what I did. The thing is, I should have reported immediately to the United States authorities when I heard the Japanese were trying to contact me. I don't feel to be a criminal. That's all, sir.'

He was sentenced to death by firing squad, but found his sentence challenged on the grounds that America was not at war at the time he was spying, so the military tribunal was the wrong place to have tried him.  He was sent to Ellis Island for several years awaiting deportation to Germany but, in another twist, was released from the island in 1948 and lived and worked in New York City, before ultimately moving to Argentina: he died of cancer in 1955.  After Pearl Harbor, Ruth and Friedel were sent to a prison camp with Eberhard and his younger brother Hans.  Ruth, Friedel and Hans were eventually deported back to Germany Kuehn's father Eberhard, by then 16, refused to go with them and instead joined the US Army.  Remarkably, by 1949 Ruth was back in the United States, married to a travel agent and living in New York City. How she managed to be granted permission remains a mystery.  Kuehn herself has never managed to make sense of the wild twist that saw Ruth returning to live in a country she had actively tried to destroy.  According to Kuehn, Ruth appeared haunted by the decisions she made as a young woman constantly worried that the dark family secrets would be brought to light.  She was right to be concerned: J Edgar Hoover himself kept detailed files on her and her family.  Kuehn pauses when asked who from her family she'd most like to speak to now.  'I'd really like to have a panel discussion,' she said. 'I wouldn't want to talk to just one of them. I'd love to talk to my aunt Ruth; for her to be able to come clean and tell me, so did you really do this? I don't know if she knew she was Jewish when she was younger.  I would like to talk to my grandmother Friedel, because she was the matriarch of the family. I think she knew everything. But honestly, I'd love to get them all in a room, lock the door and say, okay, let's move through this. I want to know how you got here, why you did it, good, bad, ugly, whatever it is. I would like to know that: the why.  Was it really just for money? Was it for the Nazi agenda? I would like to ask them, looking back, if you could do it again, knowing what you know now, would you still have done it?'

Her father eventually came round to the idea of her interest in their story. He died in 2006, aged 80.  Her aunt Ruth, she is sure, would have vehemently disagreed. She spent her later years warning the younger generation not to look to the past, and died in 2010, aged 95.  Kuehn is unsure whether Ruth's reticence was the product of 'guilt or self-preservation' although she is inclined to believe it was to save herself from the ignominy.  'This story for 30 years was stopped and started more times than I can even begin to talk about,' said Kuehn. 'Something terrible would come up, or I would find out some terrible history, and I would pause and say, okay, I can't go. I can't do this anymore.  But then I start thinking about what my dad went through, the sacrifice he made walking away from his family, and I felt like it was the right time. Several historians were beginning to reach out about books they wanted to write, and I thought if anyone is going to tell my family's story, it's going to be me. Because so many things have been written in the past that just weren't true.'

The writing was deeply painful, at times, but she is relieved the truth is finally out there.  'I can't tell you how many people read the book and the first words out of their mouths is, I didn't know the Nazis were elected into office. I think we move on, and history kind of loses the pieces we really need to remember.  And I think uncovering my family's secrets, or any hidden secrets about a period of time, is really important to make sure that we don't repeat the transgressions of the past.'

Does she have any sympathy for her Nazi relations?

Their story, after all, is tragic.  Otto lived out his days in exile, only returning to Germany at the very end.  Friedel, who died nine years after her husband, in 1964, never saw her son Eberhard after he joined the US Army; Leopold died fighting for the Nazis while the rest of the family were in prison in the US; Hans, who battled the shame of his family's actions for decades, took his own life in 1974.  'I don't know if sympathy is the right word,' said Kuehn, slowly. 'What I do look at is how quickly they got caught up in it. They went and listened to Hitler speak, who was very charismatic, and joined the Nazi Party the next day, and it bothers me that they would turn so quickly from being a normal family to all of a sudden becoming these die-hard Nazis.  I think I have sympathy for my dad. I have sympathy for Hans, the life that they had to live and they had to testify against their father.  Otto and Friedel and Ruth and Leopold were grown people, and they made decisions. And unfortunately for a lot of us, they made the wrong decisions.'

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/royals/article-15328975/Line-succession-Royal-Family-website-updated-Andrew.html

Line of succession on Royal Family's website is finally updated to reflect removal of Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor's Duke of York title

By MARK DUELL, SENIOR REPORTER

Published: 16:21, 26 November 2025 | Updated: 16:42, 26 November 2025

The line of succession on the Royal Family's website has finally been updated to reflect the removal of Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor's titles, the Daily Mail can reveal.  Buckingham Palace announced on October 17 that Andrew would stop using his remaining titles and honours and would no longer be known as the Duke of York.  Three days later Andrew's title was scrubbed out on his profile page on the royal website to reflect the loss of this dukedom over the Jeffrey Epstein sex scandal.  On October 30, it was revealed that Andrew would lose his prince title, before this was officially actioned on November 7 by the King who also removed his HRH style.  But Andrew was still listed until recently on the website's line of succession page in eighth as 'The Duke of York', behind Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet of Sussex.   Now, with his public life having been effectively ended, the website has finally been updated and the line of succession entry appears as 'Andrew Mountbatten-Windsor'.  His profile page was already taken down at the start of November, with a message on royal.uk/the-duke-of-york now saying: 'The requested page could not be found.'

It comes as a poll suggested that three quarters of Britons believe Andrew should have to give evidence to the US Congress about his links to paedophile Epstein.  American legislators have criticised the King's 65-year-old brother for 'hiding' from them after the former prince ignored a request to sit for a transcribed interview.  Prime Minister Sir Keir Starmer suggested at the weekend that 'if you have relevant information you should be prepared to share it' after Andrew missed the November 20 response deadline given by members of the House Oversight Committee.

The King has officially stripped his disgraced brother of his prince title, and removed his dukedom from the Roll of the Peerage over Andrew's 'serious lapses' of judgment.  The move followed the publication of posthumous memoirs by Andrew's accuser Virginia Giuffre, and the US government's release of documents from Epstein's estate.  It emerged Andrew had emailed Epstein in 2011 saying 'we're in this together', three months after he claimed he had broken all contact with the paedophile.  The former Duke of York has for many years faced allegations he sexually assaulted a teenaged Ms Giuffre after she was trafficked by Epstein. Andrew strenuously denies the accusations.  A letter signed by 16 members of Congress was sent to Andrew on November 6 requesting his co-operation with the committee's investigation into Epstein's sex trafficking operations.  The US politicians said their House Oversight Committee had identified 'financial records containing notations such as 'massage for Andrew' that raise serious questions'.

Epstein took his own life in a New York prison in 2019 while awaiting trial on sex trafficking and conspiracy charges.  On October 30, Andrew's new name as a commoner was announced as 'Andrew Mountbatten Windsor'.  But the surname was missing the hyphen decreed by Andrew's late mother, Queen Elizabeth II, 65 years ago when she set out the arrangements for the naming of her descendants as 'Mountbatten-Windsor'.  When asked about the absence of a hyphen, in reference to the Queen's decision in 1960, a palace spokeswoman said at the time of the announcement confirming Andrew's loss of his titles: 'Andrew Mountbatten Windsor was the name agreed.'

But the palace subsequently examined the 1960 Privy Council Declaration, which includes a hyphen, and sources confirmed on November 12 that they will use a hyphen going forward.  Andrew remains a counsellor of state, but this role has previously been described as 'inactive'.  Only 'working members' of the royal family would be called upon to carry out the sovereign's duties on a temporary basis as a counsellor of state in case of illness or overseas travel.  Meanwhile Mid and East Antrim Council has this week agreed to start the process of renaming Prince Andrew Way in Carrickfergus, Northern Ireland.  The Country Antrim street was named after Andrew in 1986 to mark his wedding to Sarah Ferguson.  The council's interim chief executive, Valerie Watts, cautioned there is no council policy for changing the name of the street and, while it is not straightforward, it is possible.  She said other agencies, such as Royal Mail, need to be consulted and council staff will do a full investigation into what is required, and bring a full report back to council.

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https://www.dailymail.co.uk/lifestyle/family-parenting/article-15296211/cut-contact-mother-relationship-toxic-reconnected-KATE-WILLS.html

I cut all contact with my mother six years ago. Our relationship was toxic but this was why we reconnected and exactly what happened: KATE WILLS

By KATE WILLS

Published: 16:50, 16 November 2025 | Updated: 16:50, 16 November 2025

To anyone who saw us, it looked like a completely ordinary moment of multi-generational bliss.  I was feeding my newborn baby in the playground, while my mother pushed my older daughter on a swing as she screamed with laughter. But for me and many people who know me it felt almost pinch-me unbelievable.  For more than six years, I was completely estranged from my mother. Just a year ago we weren’t even talking. Yet now?

We’re closer than ever.  The roots of our off-on relationship lie in events of more than 20 years ago. My father had a problem with alcohol, yet it was mum I blamed for my parents’ divorce when I was 11.  Four years later, she sold our family home to move away with her new ­partner and I had to live with dad, who because of his drinking wasn’t able to look after me properly.  I stayed in touch with her, though ‘in touch’ isn’t really what you want when you’re 15.  She always sent birthday and Christmas presents and we met every few months, sometimes with my older ­sister, but I dreaded these meetings which were often strained and tense. I felt she was completely uninterested in my life and we had nothing in common.  As the years went by, we saw each other less and less and in 2018 having been through my own divorce I made the painful decision to cut off all ­contact.  Although she often tried to get in touch through letters delivered by my sister I didn’t see a way back for us and told myself I felt happier without her in my life.  I thought nothing would make me reconsider. Even during the pandemic when many worried about their elderly parents I chose not to contact her. Getting pregnant with my daughter Blake in 2020 made me wish I had family around to help like my friends did, but I still didn’t feel I wanted her back in my life.  But as Blake got older, I felt guilty that I was depriving her of a grandparent.  My partner Guy would regularly ask me if he could take Blake to meet her without me, but I always said no. Our relationship felt toxic and all I had was bad memories of her.  Then my father died. It was September last year and my mother was there at the funeral.

There was a hugely emotional reunion with many tears and afterwards we started to email each other. We tentatively went for coffee and a few faltering steps later, she met Guy and Blake, who is now five.  At first it felt difficult to trust that our relationship could work and I was worried she’d let me down again.  But we took things slowly and I realised it felt different this time it was like we could meet as adults and have a fresh start.  When I found I was finally ­pregnant again earlier this year after years of trying and IVF it felt especially joyful. Not just because the baby was so longed for, but because my mum was now regularly in my life to share news with.  I could see how happy she was when we told her on a cold ­winter’s day as we walked around our local park and I was shocked at her depth of feeling for me.  I had spent so long thinking my mum was cold and unfeeling, so to see her so moved was very poignant. During my pregnancy she was an unexpected source of support on the phone and occasionally in person.

But it was when I found out Guy would have to work in another city for three weeks, just ten days after the baby was due, that she really sprang into action.  Offering to book an Airbnb nearby for the entire time he was away, she suddenly became the mother my friends had always had. The one who’s there, physically, when you need her.  I was nervous about it but the experience was a revelation  Although of course it was amazing to have another pair of hands while suddenly dealing with the demands of two children, I realised something even better I actually enjoyed her company. No doubt helped by the fact we now had this new shared interest of a baby to look after, our relationship felt simple and natural in a way it never had before.

For the first time, I realised how much we have in common and also how hard things must have been for her when I was growing up. I found being alone with two kids for just a few weeks a struggle, but my mum had to do it regularly over the years because of my father’s drinking.  During the long hours of feeding and burping the baby, we could properly talk in a way we hadn’t in years or maybe ever. Although we may not have been in each other’s lives for a while, my mother knows me on a level which few people do.  I loved hearing about what I was like as a baby, and her own experiences of motherhood.  Although we didn’t go into details about the past, I began to see her ‘neglectful’ parenting and ‘selfish’ behaviour in a different light. For decades, I wished my mother could have been ‘better’, but now that I’m a mum myself, I realise there is no idealised ­version of motherhood everyone is just trying their best.  We expect women to be self-sacrificing when they have children but you still have your own wants and needs. When I was younger, I resented my mother for falling in love with someone new and moving away, but now I have experienced more of life and my own divorce I can respect her decision to follow her heart and go in search of her own happiness, even though it was very damaging for me.  Five years ago, when I had my first daughter, I told myself that we didn’t need my mum as we had assembled our own ‘village’ of ­neighbours, friends and people we paid to support us, like a doula and a nanny.  But being with my mother made me realise how special it is to have your family around you when you have a new baby.  Sharing the joy with them adds another layer of meaning and contentment.  It felt so effortless to be with my mum that it was actually hard to say goodbye when my partner came back. I missed her company in the day and her calm presence in the evenings. Of course, it’s also been bittersweet, as having her in my life now has made me realise how much we all missed out on when I had Blake.  Some of my ‘mum friends’ I bump into at the school gates have said how nice it was to meet my mum when she was doing the school run. I feel like one of the smug women I used to envy, who take for granted that they have their mother’s support.  The time after you give birth often feels like a transformation and for me and mum that’s been the case. Perhaps a baby always symbolises hope and new life, but having Harper has breathed new life into my relationship with my mother and made me hopeful about our future.