My sister is recieving counselling

[Jess]

I'm sorry if this sounds like a jealous rant but please bare with me.

I recently found out that my younger sister is now recieving counselling but I have no idea why. For years I have been batteling depression but it seems that all the help I need is being given to my sister. Every emotion that points to 'depression' is faked for attention by my sister; on many occassion she has admitted to this, she has even planned situations in which will make it appear like she is the victim, I can see the smile on her face when my parents run to her. For years she has been copying myself and my other siblings for attention, at first it seemed nothing more than annoying but now she is taking it too far. There is no way I can tell my parents that I am depressed if they believe that my younger sister is. I'm not sure how I can convey what I see daily onto this form and so all I can hope is that you do not feel like I am lying about this situation.

I am deeply offended by the fact that my sister is faking her depression but I cannot explain it to my parents as they feel like I am victimising her which is exactly what she wants.

Thank you for reading, although I'm not sure what posting this will achieve. All I know is that I am once again being left behind for fear of telling somebody about my depression yet my sister whom is only a year and a half younger is recieving the help that I so desperatly need.

I hope you are all ok.

Jess xx

[Lol]

Jess it sounds like you really don't get on with your sister and there is some jealousy in your relationship as you say which is very difficult to live with. Why do you think your sister is faking her depression and why can't you tell anyone about yours?

[Zaf]

Are you receiving treatment from your GP jess? xx

[Jess]

Sadly I am yet to recieve any help.

I have never got along with my sister but I have lived with her all her life and I know what type of a person she is. I wish I could explain what I am trying to convey but this is proving difficult. I know what depression is like and I know what faking it looks like and I am afraid to say that she is indeed faking this condition. My parents claim that she is emotionally deprieved but I have seen and heard on too many occasions her planning ways in which she can look like the victim. I know she isn't depressed but there may be other issues at hand.

Jess xx

[Lol]

Hi Jess. That's what I was thinking. Some one who fakes anything for attention probably needs attention! what do you think might have gone on/be going on in her life that has lead her to play on these drastic shows of insecurity? Could you help her rather than fight against it?

[Zaf]

I wonder if you ought to go to your GP Jess and get some treatment and/or counselling? xx

[Lol]

Zaf is right Jess it is very important that you get your own help and your family doesn't necessarily have to know about it if you don't feel it would be appropriate?

[Jess]

My sister has always struggled with identifying herself as her own person. If she's not copying me, it's another of my siblings or her friends. I wish I could tell her that enough is enough she may need counselling but not for depression. Much to my annoyance I am currently being ignored by my mother (2 weeks) after I requested that she purchases more fruit and vegetables and so I cannot approach her with this issue. I am seeing my doctor tomorrow for yet another health issue but I do not feel like I have the confidence to tell them about my depression. At the moment this fourm is my only outlet.

[Lol]

That is very difficult. If you could find any way to tackle it with your GP tomorrow you might find a great relief to have finally got it out there and started some help of your own.

Don't worry about your sisters counselling, it wont take the counsellor 2 minutes to figure it out if she is faking it then redirect the counselling to more appropriately address her needs. Maybe this is just the thing she needs, it doesn't matter what you go in there with, you'll soon be knocking the top of some massive mental boil you never knew you had and discovering all sorts of things about yourself!

[Zaf]

lol is right jess,  any decent counsellor will soon know if she is faking symptoms.   If you possibly can bring up your feelings of depression with your GP it would be the first step to helping your own depression xx

[SleepyCat]

I recently found out that my younger sister is now recieving counselling but I have no idea why. For years I have been batteling depression but it seems that all the help I need is being given to my sister. Every emotion that points to 'depression' is faked for attention by my sister; on many occassion she has admitted to this, she has even planned situations in which will make it appear like she is the victim, I can see the smile on her face when my parents run to her. For years she has been copying myself and my other siblings for attention, at first it seemed nothing more than annoying but now she is taking it too far. There is no way I can tell my parents that I am depressed if they believe that my younger sister is. I'm not sure how I can convey what I see daily onto this form and so all I can hope is that you do not feel like I am lying about this situation.

Actually Jess, this behaviour is very odd and it sounds like your sister has some very real problems that she needs help with. They may not turn out to be quite the problems she's saying they are, but it really does sound like there is something wrong. A good counsellor will be able to see through your sister's lies and get to the bottom of the real problem.

I hope you will find the courage to ask your doctor for help with your own depression. You need and deserve support too. It doesn't sound like it's going to be forthcoming from your parents, so you have even more need to seek it elsewhere.