Why am I even bothered about this.....

[nickynoo]

Had been having a good day today until I logged onto Facebook and realised that my newly ex-boyfriend (as of 3 weeks ago) has hidden his wall posts from me, after adding a new female friend to his account.

The break up was mutual after having a year of lots of ups and downs, (we were together for 2.5 years and he moved away last year, when I really needed him close by even though he wasn't very supportive, he used to get annoyed with me and told me off for not making the effort to travel for 4 hours to go and see him, I had told him many times that I simply didn't have the energy to travel that far and he just said I was making excuses and to 'pull myself together (how I didn't give him a slap every time he said this I don't know).

I now have lots of thoughts about why he would hide his wall posts from me, seeing as we have agreed to remain friends, seems like he has something to hide. If he has a new girl then that is fine but I'm not liking the sneakyness of hiding things from me (to be honest I never really looked on his wall, but just had a look when I saw he'd added this girl).

Am I being irrational, annoyingly feeling anxious about this

[Alstare1974]

I don't think you're being irrational. Think you have to put it out of your mind though.

[danbob]

alstare is right.... this should help :)

[nickynoo]

I don't mind it if he has a new woman, would seem a bit quick really seeing as we only broke up 3 weeks ago, maybe he had her in the wings waiting.

The thing that bothers me is the fact that he has now made me think that he has something to hide, just seems a bit strange as he has always been pretty open and honest with me (well I would hope so anyway) and now he is hiding stuff or am I just being paranoid????.

Its just made me feel a bit &$%+ now, I cant get these thoughts out of my head now.........he always had a way of making me feel inferior when we were together and I'm feeling bad now even though I haven't even spoken to him. I dont really want to ask him why he has done it either, I don't want him to think that I am bothered about it. Funny thing is I was thinking of putting my status as single, but felt guilty about doing it so I haven't done that yet as didn't want to hurt his feelings by doing it.

I feel a bit silly as I feel I have made a big deal of it when in reality it probably isn't......but that's what it feels like though....a big deal 

[nickynoo]

Like the post danbob....that's all true!! :)

[Zaf]

I can understand how you feel but agree totally with Alstare

[Munchroom]

I can completley understand how you feel - facebook can be wonderful but it can also be very hurful to see other peoples actions on there.

Everyone is right though - you need to try your hardest to put it out of your mind. Change your status to single - better still, change it to nothing at all - hide it from your profile! Chances are he knows how this will effect you and is probably sitting back and waiting for the question of 'Why have you hidden your wall posts from me?/Have you got a new gilfriend?/Who is this girl?' Don't give him the satisfaction!!!! Change your relationship status to whatever you feel comfortable with doing, then sit back and consider yourself the better person because you haven't risen to his bait 

[nickynoo]

Thanks, I know this is all a bit petty compared to what some of you are going through so I really appreciate that you have replied to me :)

I feel a bit better about it today, maybe coz I have slept on it (once I had actually managed to get to sleep), trying not to think about it but it does keep popping up. I'm sure he does want me to be wondering what he is up to (and I AM wondering now that he had given me something to wonder about)....what a sod, he does know how to get to me, annoyingly. I will not rise to his bait, but I did decide to change my status to single, coz that is what I am and he obviously is not thinking about my feelings, so why should I think of his like a mug!

Anyway how are you all feeling today?

[danbob]

feeling top notch today, im glad your feeling better :)