Depression in relationship advice...

[Chris_w]

Hi guys,

I really hope this doesn't sound like a sad romantic story, I really need some advice on my  girlfriend...

Basically we had been living together in my own house for 3 months when my girlfriend's dad offered us the chance to move in with him and her mum for a few months to save a lot of money...pay off debts that Aimee had.

Her mother is unable to work because of her depression and her father is her carer. I always thought that when Aimee was near her mum she used to almost zap her positivity away.

Aimee herself has suffered from depression for a few years, which I believe she has inherited from her mother and when we got together was taking Fluoxetin but slowly weened herself away from it as we started to really enjoy our relationship and eventually came off them 3 months ago.

Sadly I noticed little changes in her, and noticed she would get downer and downer and downer.

Before she took herself off her tablets, we talked about marriage on a regular occasion and how she couldnt wait to marry me.

We then moved into her mum and dads and it all started to fall apart and Aimee started to sink like a sinking ship. Eventually a week ago we agreed to give her space because she needed to sort her head out/. I saw her last night and she had really really sunk, constant thoughts of dying etc. Said she felt numb about her feelings about almost anything and said she felt nothing for me anymore but wasn't sure wether this was because of the depression.

I guess my question(after the long essay, im sorry), is this something that is normal in depression?

After talking to her brother, he mentioned that him and her other sister often have similar problems because of their upbringing with the mother, and after moving back into the home with her it seems like something similar has happened.

Right now she seems a very lost soul and i'm very worried. I guess because I love her so much, I'm also hoping onto that bit of hope that this might just be a phase...but I just dont know.


Thank you for reading and i'm sorry again if this sounds like a soppy lost love...I'm just in the long run incredibly worried about her.

Chris

[Chris_w]

I forgot to mention I am also a sufferer of Depression and have done for the past ten years, but in the past couple of years, have managed to find ways of treating this such as exercise, so I do understand a lot about it, just wanted some advice or even previous experience from people.

Thanks again.

Chris

[Zaf]

Hi Chris, welcome :)

It sounds very much as though coming off the medication and/or living with her parents has caused Aimee to have another episode of depression, everything you describe are classic symptoms (including the lack of feeling towards people), could you persuade her to go back to the GP and get back on medication as a starting off point?

Z xx

[Chris_w]

Thanks for the reply Zaf, wasn't sure wether people would reply!   :)

Another thing I didnt mention is, she has been very distant physically, including even hugs, as well since she's really started to go down deeper with depression, is this also normal?!

[Chris_w]

Oops, I'm really sorry, have just noticed there is another topic for relationships...Sorry guys!

[Zaf]

No problem Chris, you'll find people post all over the place!

Everyone here understands depression and will always help if they can, its rare to wait long for a reply :)

Yes, losing libido is very common with depression unfortunately