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Pete

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3735 on: February 07, 2012, 12:41:00 AM »
Sorry my eyes aint working well tonight didn't mean to call you alistaire, alstare. Its just I have a mate called alistaire and at a glance I saw that name lol. Well I say a mate, an old mate who I sort of pushed away some time back now.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3736 on: February 07, 2012, 12:44:51 AM »
Just got to go to court next week and I know I'm going to get a conviction. It's going to make it hard to get a job. Just really upsetting me.

No big on spelling my name wrong.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3737 on: February 07, 2012, 12:46:14 AM »
Thanks for replying btw.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3738 on: February 07, 2012, 12:51:02 AM »
What kind of job do you normally do? Not all lines of work are affected by convictions and not all convictions cause major issues nowadays. I have a past too yet I worked in high end security for over a decade. CRB checks can also assist you mate. So is that your major worry today?

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3739 on: February 07, 2012, 12:52:41 AM »
Don't forget its hard to get a job of late anyway so don't over worry there is always time.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3740 on: February 07, 2012, 01:07:47 AM »
It's quite a serious conviction but I don't need crb for my job. Yeah that's my main stress to be honest.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3741 on: February 07, 2012, 01:19:54 AM »
Well ok let's look at things like this, the seriousness of the offence matters only to those who it will affect. This is you and in this case any potential employer. If you don't need a crb for the line of work you do then the matter of the offence coming to light relies on two things. Them asking and you telling. If they don't ask don't tell. If you feel that you morally need to inform them then they need to then decide if A) the offence is such a serious level it will affect the job and B) if your upfront honesty balances things out.

If you need advice there is always Nacro who work to help people with a record but I feel that the main issue here is your concern. This to me says that your obviously remorsful for whatever it was and believe me that goes a long way when hiring folk. My advice is just take it as it comes, offer info that is asked for and let your skill at the job do the talking.

Punishments like fines,probation and community service are not looked on as being major anyway just custodial and even then the help available is immense so there is always light at the end of the tunnel.

I think remorse is now showing as fear and in turn worry at how this will ruin it all but trust me, the measure of a man(or woman) is shown in how they accept wqrong and move forward and I can tell you'll be ok. Try not to worry too much, take it as it comes. :)

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3742 on: February 07, 2012, 01:39:14 AM »
Thanks Pete. All the job applications ask. So it's just whether I disclose.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3743 on: February 07, 2012, 05:44:44 AM »
If you dont disclse information you can be dismissed if your employers find out, but I'm not sure if its now legal to ask that on an an application form unless you need a clean record to do the work.

I know its hellishly difficult but try to cross one hurdle at a time &*(

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3744 on: February 07, 2012, 05:45:12 AM »
Worst day for a very long time  :-[

Can we help in any way?  xx
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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3745 on: February 07, 2012, 12:06:39 PM »
Hi guys, hope everyone is doing alright, not been online for a while.

I'll not clog up this thread with my ramblings, I'll go do it on mine.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3746 on: February 07, 2012, 04:18:57 PM »
Feeling really crap. Been crying a lot.

Got turned down for a job I was hopeful to at least get an interview for.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3747 on: February 07, 2012, 04:35:10 PM »
Oh dear.

Sorry to hear this mate

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3748 on: February 07, 2012, 04:36:55 PM »
Hi Alstare, In the current climate I think you're more likely to not even get an interview so don't take things too personal and cross it off the list and move to the next one.

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Re: How are you feeling today?
« Reply #3749 on: February 07, 2012, 04:39:42 PM »
Today I am so tired but I didn't get out of bed until 2pm, up all night again sitting alone. The day is drawing near and I am not sure how I'm feeling. Feel like I'm sinking deeper and deeper again. A settled mind and a steady life is all I want.

Will it ever come?