Hi im new to all of this.

[j4mes]

Hi,

I have just recently started to look on here and can relate to a few people here. I’m not one for sharing my feelings a huge amount. I’m not sure what I really want from writing this I just feel I needed to tell someone without any judgement. Just to give you a quick lowdown on me and my situation. I’m 27 separated with my girlfriend of 7 years last may and ever since have been going through the process of deciding what we are to do with our property. At xmas time is started to get quiet nasty and solicitors have now got involved. I’m owed a fair bit of money from the house but the cost of the solicitors is crippling me. With that I also work with my ex’s stepdad and due to this we now don’t see eye to eye and he is making my everyday working life very difficult. I am looking for a new job and have had a few interviews but have had no success as yet. As well as that my mum has been signed off work to stress so I try to comfort her and not give her the full story as to my problems. Every day is getting harder and harder. I don’t want to get up in the morning and just feel generally depressed I guess. I have started to drink more during the week. At the weekends I regularly go out a drink heavily as it makes me forget about my problems for a while. I haven’t been to the doctor at all as I’m not really sure what they can do to help me, plus I’m a little concerned about what they will actually say. I have great friends but they also have problems in their lives so don’t want to burden them with mine. Every day I think , wouldn’t it be easier to not be here so I don’t have to deal with it I just really can’t see past all of this mess and don’t know what to do. I know there are people in worse situations than me and I try to keep telling myself that things will get better but I’m not sure I can believe that for much longer.  Sorry for the ramble! 


 

[lightenup]

Hi James a warm  !"£ to the forum, rant all you like on here, sometimes it is good to get it of your chest and to one's who you are anonymous to but who also know what you are going through.  Unfortunately I also like to drink and limit myself to the week-end I feel it helps take the edge of ..............but know it is only a short lived moment.................last night I cried myself to sleep.

You have a lot going on in your life, don't be afraid to ask for help, although I know this can be so difficult, the admission you are not well is a big step.  Life is so difficult at the moment with all the added stresses the economy brings and the job front.  The dr will probably admin medication or offer help like CBT nothing beats a try to get rid of this bugger,other people use music, exercise to try and relax or self help books.  Good luck, and take care

[Cinderella]

Its funny how we blame ourselves constantly, when it is actually not your fault that your relationship has not worked out. All the things that make you depressed are good reasons.
I, too have been feeling low for 2 1/2 months now and had episodes like this before in the last 3 years. I am married with 2 children, who are growing up and don't need me as much as they used to, when they were smaller. I always thought that I am going to make it really big and ended up working as a secretary in a hospital.
So good reason to feel depressed, but the glass is always half-full or half-empty.

Hope it will all pass quicker. Anyhow, nice to chat here!