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Tommles

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New here.
« on: January 07, 2011, 11:33:57 PM »
So yeah, hi I guess.
I'm not entirely sure why I'm here, I guess I just felt like talking. I don't even know if you could actuallyconsidr me depressed really. I just feel really sad and alone constantly even though I have no real reason to be. I see other people with much worse problems who get on fine with life and I feel stupid for it, just a cliched whining teen.
I've lost interest in things I used to be really passionate about, the things that made me who I was. I just want to feel like the guy I used to be again.

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Re: New here.
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2011, 11:11:36 AM »
Hi Tommles, and welcome!
Well, you sound a bit depressed to me, but it's not really for anyone to judge or label you. If you think this forum can help, then you're in the right place.
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Re: New here.
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2011, 07:28:11 PM »
Hi tommles, welcome to the forum, it sounds like you are in the right place.
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Re: New here.
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2011, 10:47:39 PM »
So, I feel stupid asking this but what exactly should I do on here. I kind of joined on a whim to see if I could get help but I don't even know how to go about doing that.

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« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2011, 11:28:24 PM »
Hi tommles, talking really helps and people here do read all the posts and help you as much as we can, we all have or have had depression and understand the thoughts and feelings.
Hope that helps.
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Re: New here.
« Reply #5 on: January 09, 2011, 11:00:41 AM »
Tommles, as junior says, you can just talk. Putting your feelings on here may help you to feel a bit better. Sometimes just putting your feelings into words can make them seem more manageable. And you can say pretty much what you like, good or bad, we've all been in similar places and no-one will judge you.
If you have any questions about what other people do to help themselves, or about any therapies or medication, just ask, someone on here may have the answer that will help you.
All the best, bel.

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Re: New here.
« Reply #6 on: January 09, 2011, 02:54:24 PM »
Welcome Tommies we are a great sounding board, just like Junior & Bel says we give each other help even if we are only listening.  Take care
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Re: New here.
« Reply #7 on: January 09, 2011, 09:53:40 PM »
Thanks everyone :)
I guess my problem at the moment is my lack of self respect and determination. I don't feel like I'm worth Anyones time and like I don't have any worthwhile skills or ideas. I mean I have friends and I love them all but I feel they might be better of without me around or like I annoy them.
Another problem is how angry I can get. There are people in my classes who I can't help but hate. I get really violent thoughts about them and how I'd relish in finding accuse to hurt them. They don't care for other people and in one example have set my geography class back by several weeks because of their constant, selfish disruptions. They sicken me and I know the world would be better off without them but obviously there's nothing I can do about that. I just don't know how to deal with them. They don't often directly do anything to me but just their very presence....

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« Reply #8 on: January 10, 2011, 11:39:07 AM »
Lack of self respect, self worth etc, is a common theme with us who get depressed. And it's very hard to deal with. Perhaps you could try writing a list of the things you feel you can do well, I'm sure there will be things if you really try to focus on your achievements and abilities. They don't need to be anything fantastic, like nuclear physics, just everyday things. Then try to appreciate yourself for those things. Having friends you love is a good one. They must love you too, or they wouldn't be your friends. Can you talk to any of your friends about how you feel?

Anger is another common one, also very difficult. Especially when you're young (sorry if I sound like your great auntie or something ;D). Don't feel bad about being angry though, it is normal. You just need to learn how to deal with it productively rather than turning it against yourself. Sometimes we feel angry about x, but really we're deeply angry about y, maybe without even realising it, and that can take a lot of time to resolve. Having said that, I can totally understand your anger at disruptive class "mates" (I had a lot of trouble with that sort of thing when I was at school). There is nothing you can do to change their behaviour, you need to find a way to stop it upsetting you so much. I guess the teachers can't control them either. Could you talk to the teacher, explain that you want to get on with learning (something else to appreciate yourself for) and ask if you can have some work you could be getting on with quietly while they are being disruptive. Then you could feel that your time is not being completely wasted and that you are achieving something.

Hope some of this is helpful.
best wishes, bel

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Re: New here.
« Reply #9 on: January 10, 2011, 10:05:27 PM »
I have spoken to teachers about these people but nothing come of it, I just get told to ignore them. They don't even bother to deal with these idiots anymore, they pretty much run wild when what they really need is real punishment.
I've tried thinking of things I'm good at but just don't feel it... I do have friends though and they're the only things that really matter to me. I live for the moments I share with them and feel completely empty and unwanted if I can't be with them for whatever reason...
Just like today, I'd had I really great day with people at school but after I got home I just crashed and avoided everyone. I just sit there and make my room as dark and quiet as possible...

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« Reply #10 on: January 11, 2011, 02:31:05 PM »
Hi Tommies........maybe after the stress of the day you may need to relax, maybe you could do something enjoyable like playing some music you like in the background.  Take care and keep well :)
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« Reply #11 on: January 11, 2011, 04:21:35 PM »
Hi tommies, the anger helped me as I could direct it at the depression, it also took my mind off the bad thoughts.
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« Reply #12 on: January 12, 2011, 10:49:32 PM »
I'm feeling even worse at the moment. Seems like the fact that I can't have a day where nothing goes wrong has been further reinforced. I'd had another pretty good day at school only to come home and find that the majority if my music has deleted itself, which has been I real blow since I use that to deal with life. On top of that I finally built up the courage to ask out the girl I have like for a long time. Were really good friends and are always talking or texting so I thought I might finally have a chance with someone but as you can probably guess, it didn't go well. Now I don't know what to do with myself.

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« Reply #13 on: January 12, 2011, 11:14:24 PM »
Hi tommles, sorry you had it hard, I know you say you really like the girl you mentioned but you are young and have plenty of time to find the right girl for you.
I too use music to clear my thoughts maybe trying another type of music might change the way your depression works, worth a thought.
Junior

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« Reply #14 on: January 18, 2011, 02:22:59 AM »
Thanks all for your replies....I've basically given up on my DR...lets put it this way he's not a people person...makes me feel worse when I come out of there....trying to find a new one....