Author Topic: Lack of Care  (Read 2453 times)

chunkabutt

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Lack of Care
« on: December 21, 2010, 03:08:00 PM »
Hi does anyone out there feel nothing towards most of the people around you, apart from my 2 kids which is the total opposite, I have a real care less attitude to most people close to me and that includes my partner, it is like I know I love them but if I never seen them again I would not care and that is not me, I know if they did go away it would be the worst thing but yet still I feel the total opposite if that makes any sense.
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Re: Lack of Care
« Reply #1 on: December 21, 2010, 03:34:33 PM »
Makes perfect sense to me matey.
I get the same feelings from time to time.

I think deep down inside, your mind is telling you that you need to think about sorting YOURSELF out.
Worrying about the troubles of others comes second because it will take up the energy needed for your own problems. It's an unconcious thing.

It's not a bad thing, or even a wrong thing, to think inwardly when you're in the dumps. Just keep a check on your emotions and feelings, keep in touch with them and when your problems do eventually even themselves out, you'll begin feeling that familiar concern for those around you again.

One thing I've learned though, is other people tend to flip out and make short sighted assumptions when my behaviour changes, so be sure your closest friends and family are aware that you're having a few problems, so when YOUR behaviour changes, he/she/they are prepared, rather than scratching their heads wondering.
It'll make your private battle easier too, knowing that they know to leave you alone when you need.
Everyone has a b@stard, whether it's an Inner Demon, or some self important @rse who looms over your every move.
The trick is to not let the b@stards grind you down. Shed a cleansing tear, then stand tall and be humbled in knowing that you are much better than they will ever be...
... and you will get stronger.

bel

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Re: Lack of Care
« Reply #2 on: December 22, 2010, 11:39:51 AM »
Agree with SSF. I think it's another symptom of depression and not something else to worry about. Look after yourself.

chunkabutt

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Re: Lack of Care
« Reply #3 on: December 23, 2010, 11:35:03 PM »
Thanks guys I have done exactly that as regards letting the people close to me know how I feel and for them not to take it personally, the one that finds it hardest is my Fiancee who lives in Pennsylvania and I live in N.Ireland so the distance does not help her or possibly me either.

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Re: Lack of Care
« Reply #4 on: December 31, 2010, 05:09:13 PM »
Hi i'm new to all this.

I suffered with depression for years. Reding some of the posts on here i can totally relate to whats been said.

Right now and for the last 24/36 hrs i'm going through a bout of depression and noone to talk, have things to do but not motivated to do any of if and bad thoughts going throught my mind.

bel

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Re: Lack of Care
« Reply #5 on: January 01, 2011, 12:54:05 PM »
Hi

chunkabutt - that really is a long distance relationship! It must be very hard to explain your feelings when you can't see each other and you are so far apart. Hope you can work it out.

Kazzii - welcome to the forum. I hope it helps you. I've found lack of motivation to be a big part of my depression. Try to do just one little thing at a time, it can be tiny, so you can feel you've achieved something, and gradually build from it. I sometimes find music helps to control the bad thoughts - gives my brain something else to focus on.

best wishes, bel