Author Topic: First time living away from home - missing my parents - will I feel better soon?  (Read 1742 times)

supportme

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My life has been a bit chaotic recently - in a good way. I am engaged and have moved into a place together with my fiancé. As he works full time, I don't get to see him much - he has a mixed shift pattern. I am a student - it will be my third attempt at final year. I feel lonely during the day, and have been having negative thoughts about finishing uni. I have hated this degree - psychology - but next September I will be starting my second degree - midwifery, so I do have a goal - I'm just terrified that being on my own during the day will make my depression flare up. I am now after two years on the right medication for me - which is fantastic - although I am exhausted most of the time, but for me, I would rather be exhausted physically (as depression is physical) rather than suicidal.

Anyway, my point is  ;D I'm missing my parents. I weep when I have to go home after spending the day with them, and my fiancé feels bad for going to work and leaving me. When will I stop missing them? Will it get easier? Being an adult is really difficult haha. How did you all find it leaving home? 

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I could hardly wait to leave home as I was very independent despite being very shy.  The first time round it was for about 5 months (Iwas 18)and I did have mixed feelings.  I liked my independence but it was scary being more responsible for myself.  I moved back to my parents home for a variety of reasons including very unhappy.  I didn't realize I was actually depressed. 

When I was 24 I moved out again and this time round I was more prepared for it.   I lived near to my family so I was able to go round any time I felt like when I wasn't working.

Anyway it will get easier with time.  Be patient with yourself and there isn't a time frame on it.  One day you will suddenly realize that are happy to get back to your home even though you have enjoyed spending time with your parents.

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Thank you, Pip.

Take care.

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I left home at 14 so was thrown in the deep end with both parents living out of the uk...  It was my own choice and tbh i loved it.  My depression is still fed by my parents but all our situations are different. 

I hope you find some sort of solace from having the time to yourself...  Im back at home my mother moved back to england 9 yrs ago and im back here...  Hate it amd not having any space for myself but im sure i. Will get out again... 

”It’s always down to you and the choices you make. Work on the things you can change and never dwell on the things you can’t. You choose… ‘results’ or ‘excuses’ it’s always down to YOU… no one has ever given their BEST and regretted it. GO HARD NO EXCUSES.”