((((PP)))) ~ I can't imagine giving CPR to my dad either but if I had to I would. I hope you manage to stick it out with the counselling although it does sound overwhelming. When I had counselling 2004 / 2005 the first session was the hardest but it did get better.
My weekend ended up being good overall despite a 'pain in the rear' turning up on Saturday and Sunday. I won't call him a friend as I don't know him that well and got to know him through a mutual friend. The basics are he is 61 years, name Colin, is either from South Africa or from Zimbabwe originally (he got us completely confused), moved from South Africa to the UK ten years ago and has worked on and off but is getting pension credits. Colin has been backwards and forwards from London and Bishop Auckland over the years ~ we have our suspicions he has been running away from problems and debts. Anyway several weeks ago he upped and moved back up this way leaving everything except for two suitcases of clothes so was homeless. The mutual friend lives in a warden controlled complex (he has a ground floor flat) and there is a room that visitors can stay in when needed. Our friend arranged with the warden for Colin to stay there for a few nights which turned into about four weeks. Hubby offered to help out with sorting out debts and finding accommodation. Colin outstayed his welcome three days running but we sorted out his debts and found accommodation for him which is a council house just by placing phone calls. It is easy to get social housing up north so within a few days of seeing the property Colin signed up for it and moved in.
He has been a bit of a pain ringing up every day and we gave in to him the day he moved in to sort out his electric and gas. He is on pay as you go meters and completely got wrong over what he needed to do apart from informing npower he had moved in so the debts would be wiped clean.
Anyway he turned up Saturday complaining that we weren't returning his calls we he left messages on our answerphone
which isn't true. We got rid of him fairly quickly as we were helping out at a church mini Christmas fair in the afternoon. That was great fun and were supplied plenty of tea and coffee free for helping
... I'm a walkover when I get a supply of tea or coffee
Yesterday Colin turned up on our doorstep at 7,20 am which didn't go down well. The excuse for knocking was because our fairy lights were on because I had forgotten to turn them off the night before so assumed we were up
. The stupid man went drinking Saturday night and claims to have lost his wallet with all his money and mobile in Durham which is 12 miles away. He claimed he had walked back but he was still drunk so if he had walked back he would have sobered up. We then found out he had woken our friend up at 6 am begging for money. We both hit the roof as this friend is 81 years old so can do without it. Colin has been warned not to go back to this friend who will call the police if he does. That put the fear of God up Colin. We have found out that Colin is here on a British overseas passport so shouldn't have been working here as he was told when he first came over that legally he can't work in the UK on his visa or passport. Fortunately another friend agreed to take Colin home. We haven't heard from him since
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Yesterday we had a good afternoon at one of the local churches which was a sociable session with tea, coffee, mince pies and biscuits. I like this time of year with the churches as they do so much to attract people in and it's great to meet up with friends who don't normally go into churches. Don't get me wrong we do like going to pubs and for meals but on the other hand we don't have to drink alcohol to have fun.
