reaching out

[Indi]

Thinking about it more today, he's probably just had enough of having a friend who's depressed. Which is perfectly understandable, it's got to be a huge responsibility, which I don't think many people would want, trying to help someone through it all, especially if they're the only person who's doing so. The whole thing is probably for the best as well, as I was far to dependent on him for any happiness I had.

I'm just wondering whether I should still call him in a few days, not to try and fix things, but just to thank him for everything good he did for me, and to say goodbye.

[Sweetpea]

If it was me, I would call him if only to clear the air. Its not nice leaving things festering. I would thank him for all his support and say I understand and could we still stay friends.

You have support here Indi.

S x x x x

[Catbrian]

I imagine, as depressives, we are very difficult to understand and, at times, get along with.  Sometimes our inner pain can make us too inward looking and that can appear selfish.

I think you should call your friend.  If he means so much, why would you not try to patch things up.  If you don't at least try, he might think you don't care.

I hope you manage to sort things out

[Indi]

Eeek. Was planning on calling him this evening, but now I can't work up the courage at all... I'm not even sure he wouldn't just cut me off or not pick up, so I'd have to leave it as a message. And he might not even listen to that, AAARGH!! 
Plus I've had a good day so far, and I know finally saying goodbye to him will be heartbreaking, so would ruin it. Though I know I should do it as soon as I can and get it over with - rip the bandaid off etc... 

[Catbrian]

You cannot know for sure how your friend will react.  Hopefully you will mean half as much as he means to you, so there will be no problem beyond the usual apologies etc.

[Sweetpea]

If he is a good friend he will accept your apology with good grace.  Good luck  0158

S x x x x

[stewart]

Hi Indi, i would go with what has been said by others here, and call him.

find out where you stand,