Does accepting depression help you in your battle?

[Catbrian]

Your friend will appreciate your thoughtfulness, Alex

[musicken]

I think I've learned to accept that it's part of me. it comes with being hypersensitive, my introverted shy nature and creative side.

I've been on a lot of different medication over the last 20 years and to be honest, I've had to stop each and every one because eventually the balance tips and the side effects are more intrusive than the depression.  then I cope for a while before it returns and I struggle to function meaningfully.

[alex1973]

thanks musicken. Yes what you say resonates with me alot

[musicken]

I do think that accepting it is a big step.  I think your friend might be scared to admit it; it's unfortunate that there's such a stigma towards any mental health issues - like it's a sign of weakness. or perhaps he feels he's less of a man if he's got depression maybe? 

Did you manage to meet up and take him for a curry? I think we all could do with such a thoughtful and kind friend that would turn up with the intention of going out for a meal and a chat. I Hope he's able to accept your help and in time is able to open up about being depressed.

[alex1973]

I did, I went down and took him out for a curry up the road from where he lives. But to be honest I did myself no favours as I ended up sleeping on his floor and had hardly any sleep due to being very uncomfortable. Then I had to come home Friday morning and then do an 8 hrs shift. So it wasnt a good experience for me.

[Sweetpea]

I hope your friend appreciated you making the trip to see him. If you had been my guest I would have slept on the floor and given you the bed. Only fair knowing you had to travel and go to work the next day.

S x x x x

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[Catbrian]

It's just as important to look after ourselves, Alex.  It doesn't help you by missing sleep etc.  But, they say, "what goes around comes around", so I hope it comes back ten-fold, as it was a nice gesture.

[alex1973]

well I have court in the morning here in Portsmouth, so lets hope it does. I wouldnt do anything to gain something good back, just that by going down to see him I didnt do myself any favours. Still its done now and tonight I am in a rather pleasant hotel room in Portsmouth with a lovely, comfy bed.

[Sweetpea]

You deserve a comfy bed after that night on the floor.  Hope you have a good nights sleep so you are refreshed for tomorrow. I will be thinking of you.

S x x x x

[Catbrian]

Hi Alex... hope you had a good nights rest in the hotel and today went okay at court

Thinking of you

[alex1973]

Yesterday was court Cat. It was a wasted journey. They had made some admin error and made a court date when they didnt need to as they had made the final hearing at County Court for the 28th. So wasted journey, wasted money, wasted time and tired to boot. Oh, at least she (the ex) actually showed this time, after not turning up for 5 hearings. Must have been because she was threatened with a fine. I suppose its good as it has made her take it seriously now rather than ignore it all.

[Sweetpea]

What a complete muck up Alex!  Crazy.  Thinking of you.

S x x x x