my husband isnt supporting me

[bb]

I had help arranged in the form mum in law. The kids misbehave and behind my back hubby has cancelled her having the kids.  He didn't even think about what it meant for me. Im really stressed and am on the slippery road. Im not at work.  I cant believe he has done this to me (

[Zaf]

Somehow you need to tell him how depression makes you feel


Z xxxx

[bb]

Hes almost calling me selfish for needing time out. Ive tried but he just dont wanna listen.

[Sweetpea]

That's not nice for you. Very unfair cancelling the childcare. You need a break.

S x x x x

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[captainkeefy]

Hi,

I'm in the same boat. The funny thing is my wife had post natal depression and I gave my job up to look after the baby. Then I was letting her go out while I had the three kids. Then she started going on nights out with her mates and was getting all friendly with other lads. Then my MH started slipping because of all this and I was basically left to get on with it. Four years later I've had another slip, left a job again, got no money and am left to it again. I've tried talking about how I feel and I get told "My mum says I look tired and I need to look after myself."

Not very nice being left to climb the walls and then I get critised for being down. I'm so glad I found this place because at least everyone here has some words of encouragement when we hit that slippery slope. I don't know if it would work for you but I fin if I put my favourite songs on it tends to lift my mood.

[Sweetpea]

That's the lovely thing about this forum we do all understand.

S x x x x

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[bb]

One of my symptoms is heightened sensitivity to noise. So I crave peace & quiet and I get a headache too thats hard to shift.  I find it really hard as my 3 kids can argue alot.  I try to be more tolerant but there's only so much I can take.

Yes the forum is a great help ! X

[Sweetpea]

I can understand this bb. My 3 boys were grown up when I started to suffer. I do not know how I would of coped if I had suffered when they were younger. I need to be alone and quiet so having 3 children would be a nightmare. Could you have a private word with your m.I.l and see if she could speak to your husband.

S x x x x

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[Catbrian]

I would be tempted to ask the mother in law to have them sat and/or sun.  Too bad if hubby thinks you're selfish.  Better being selfish than losing the rag and ending up totally exhausted.

[captainkeefy]

I too tend to suffer from a lot of head aches. I've noticed I haven't been getting them since I started taking anti depressants. I was really reluctant to start them but so glad I did. Head aches have gone and so has my anxiety. Although my moods still drop during the day. I would speak to your mother in law also. Or maybe your husband could take them out tomorrow and let you have a nice bath?