went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.

[iggyelvis]

they do this time and again. i go because they want help then make me feel crap. i am in my 40's this shd not happn.

[Catbrian]

Yes, I have parents like that.

[iggyelvis]

wellablet for the first tme n along why  remembered why i used to t

[iggyelvis]

i hope i remember to be nice to people when i need stuff done for me.

[Sweetpea]

I am sure you will as you know how it feels when people are not.

S x x x x

[stewart]

it always amazes me when some people are so grumpy or even rude when given help,
family members are the last people you should expect it from

[Catbrian]

I love to help people, but so often, some start to take it for granted and begin to expect too much.  I have recently found that, when I am in need, others are not helpful

[Leo]

Ditton that Cat.

I've virtually cut my family out of my life.

[Catbrian]

I know you have Leo... sometimes that's necessary for the sake of our MH.  Hopefully, through time, things will pan out

[iggyelvis]

My mum kept ringing until i said an exact time.

[Pip]

Just been reading through this thread.  My mum and I had a toxic relationship and she knew what buttons to push with me to make me feel bad about myself.  In 1999 I fell out with all my family because I was so fed of being the 'black sheep' despite the accusations being completely untrue.  The main one being I lied about everything even though I could prove I was telling the truth.  My dad would stick up for me when he could.  I eventually got back in touch with my parents in 2001 but it was by letter mostly as I couldn't bear anymore contact than that.  The first time I talked with my sister was 12 years later when my mum died.  Our relationship isn't great but she knows I wont back down now.  I talk to my dad more regularly now. 

[Catbrian]

The relationship with my parents is very similar.  I always keep them at arms length and, yes, Mum still knows what buttons to press.  It's good to know other people share similar experiences

[Sweetpea]

Reading this thread makes me realise how lucky I am. My mum is so understanding and supportive.

S x x x x

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