For me..

[captainkeefy]

The worst thing about it all has got to be everyone telling me how I should feel. Comments like "Cheer up hey!" Or "Oh, what's wrong now !?!" Another one I hate is "You've just got to get on with it." That one actually makes me think that I don't want to anymore, something's got to give. Do people think I enjoy it or something?

[Catbrian]

Unfortunately, I have one of those faces that, even when I feel happy, people still say, "cheer-up"!!..  I hate when someone says "you've just got to get on with it", which implies I am not...  Well, hang on, I might struggle most days of my life, sometimes it feels sh1t and, very often, I look like sh..but I AM GETTING ON WITH IT! (gits!)

People (mostly family) have upset me many times over the years with their crass comments, but I think it is more about them not knowing what to say, so I try to see it for what it is and not to give it too much thought.  If I'm honest, subconsciously, sometimes I allow it to get on my nerves and then I can have a good old bitch.  I can drive myself nuts ruminating over whatever or whoever has upset me

The truth of the matter is, living with depression is challenging enough without allowing external things to make that journey more problematic.  I hope you are now feeling better, CaptK

[captainkeefy]

I'm not feeling that bad today mood wise. The thing that got my mind on overdrive though was I spoke to my mum last night about my wife coming to see my Therapist and she turned to my wife and said "I hope you told him he's faking it." This morning I tried to speak to my wife about that comment and she started on at me.. "Funny how this 'Abandonment issue' doesn't affect you when your going anywhere. Just when i want to go out" (well, duh! I don't feel abandonment when I go out!) the thing is I don't expect anyone to change how they behave around me, I don't even want sympathy. I just want people to say its okay to feel how I do. Without criticising me for feeling down, I notice nobody complains when I'm in a good mood and I'm the one making everyone laugh and happy. It just feels like the moment I slip everyone turns their back on me.

[Sweetpea]

So feel for you. Comments like you mentioned really get my back up.  We do not choose to suffer with depression. I always say I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I do not think anyone can truly understand unless they have suffered.  %^% For you.

S x x x x

[Catbrian]

That was a silly comment about faking it.  It's a common thread on here and in my own situation; families are usually the least understanding or supportive. 

 

[captainkeefy]

The thing is I'm finding it so hard with other people at the moment. I feel like I need to be around other people and then I get asked how I am and then I get insulted for feeling the way I do. It's like my emotions are painful but I'm not allowed to talk about them, this makes them worse.

Just keep the fake smile and feel empty inside. That's my motto

[stewart]

Hi captainkeefy, i think its the same for many people with MH issues,
it is all too easy for the ones that have never lived with the problems and stress that MH can cause to shrug and tell us to suck it up etc.

unfortunatly, the mind does not have a reset button, medication and \ or therapy is sometimes all that may help

[iggyelvis]

i like my cats because they don't say stupid stuff like that

[captainkeefy]

The thing is my wife has suffered from depression in the past. But her mood tends to drop for long periods of time where as mine tends to cycle. I can feel really depressed for a day then it can clear. I tend to know when it's coming too. I can feel it creeping up on me.