I'm young and ill-informed but I'm hoping to change that!

[kmhc]

Hi! I'm Kim and I'm new here. I guess I should go with the basic stuff? I don't really know but here goes!

I first noticed a change in my whole personality roughly when I was 10 (I'm 18 now). I was 'pushed out' from my group of friends I had been close to since i was around 3 years old. It doesn't seem like much but that's actually when my life changed. I wasn't going out a lot (when before I would be out everyday with friends) and I didn't get on well with my parents or my sibling so I wasn't having such a fun time at home either!

But yeah so I've been feeling down for years now but in the last year and a half it has gotten worse. I put off going to see a doctor for so long. Then my mum was diagnosed with depression and I was paranoid the doctor's would think I was making it up or being a hypochondriac or something. I always had an excuse to justify to myself why I wouldn't make an appointment.

Then I finally got an appointment and went. First my doctor told me that he 'felt it would be better if he was dead' since around the age of 12 and that he had 'spoken to various people and come to the conclusion this was normal and not the symptom of anything'. He knew that feeling that way was not my only 'symptom'. By the end of the appointment (which didn't last long at all) he basically told me (not in his exact words, mind you) that he would entertain the idea for a while and I was to come back with 4 sides of A4 detailed with what I thought as 'symptoms'. I didn't go back.

Now I have moved and I've just registered with a new doctor and soon I'll be making another appointment and going in to see them again. I just don't know what to say so that they will take me seriously. Other than the fact I have done various online 'tests' which suggest I'm moderate-severe deppressed (which I know they are not the most accurate thing on the world), I don't actually know if the last doctor was right and that I'm completley normal or if i do actually suffer from depression!

Anyway that was me :)

[mat]

Your last doctor was completely wrong  and quite honestly I am shocked at his response and is definitely not good clinical practice and goes against medical ethics.

I am glad you have registered with a new doctor  I understand your reservations with speaking to your new doctor especially after what the last one said,  you know in your own mind if you are well or not. Depression is not just the latest must have accessory  but is serious and in your own mind and body you know deep down that you have it  but are to scared to admit it.

I urge you to make an appointment with the new GP   As I have said to people in the past  what else do you have to loose by telling your GP about your problems and worrys , until you do it is not going to get any better

[Pip]

I would personally feel uncomfortable if a doctor had said that to me.  Hopefully your new doctor will be more helpful. 

[Catbrian]

Hi Kim.... It's hardly surprising you feel so unsure about approaching another GP about your depression.  I think any of us would feel completely put off if we had come up against your last GP.  Two words come to mind; "Nutter" and "plonker"

Fortunately, GP's like him are few and far between.  It's always important we make sure our GP's take our depression seriously.  A good GP will know how difficult it is for you to reach out for help.  I hope you can find the courage to make an appointment with your new Doc.

[Sweetpea]

Hello and welcome to the forum :). The way your last Dr treated you was terrible .  I also urge you to make an appointment with your new Dr.  S x x x x

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[kmhc]

Thanks for the replies everyone. Honestly I never liked the last doctor in the first place because he talked to you as if you were a child but I'm very hopeful that the next one will be better!

[Catbrian]

I'm very sure your new Doctor will be better than the last..... let's face it, that won't be very difficult.  If it helps, take with you, one of the online tests you've done recently.  It will give you and the GP something to focus on.  I'm quite sure, afterwards, you'll be wondering why you put it off so long.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do, we are still here to support and offer advice, no matter what you decide.

[Zaf]

I agree, do go to your new doctor

Z xxx