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Northegal

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« on: September 03, 2012, 12:06:49 PM »
Where do i start!

Hi! I'm G & i'm 51 years old, married with two grown up children one aged 21 and one aged 22. I've been on citalopram 10mg when my first bout of depression started in 1995 ish. I don't know how it started, maybe all the things which have happened over the years ie my parents passing away one in 1993 and one in 2000. Also i became type 1 diabetic in 1993 ish.

So here goes! My latest is probably financial We have a very heafty mortgage. We've been talking about it for sometime now and now and again the "we'll have to move house to a cheaper one" crops up. My DD was on a works programme and started a job in May and she came home on a Wednesday a couple of weeks ago to say she's got to finish on the 31st August because they can't afford to keep the admin assistants on. She's back on her works programme now. My DS is also without a job. So i went downstairs on the Thursday am and there'e my hub ripping all the wallpaper off in the utility room, he's apparently going through a room at a time to get the house ready for selling and us moving. It's all too much for me atm, he's going at it to fast, i can't take it, we live currently in a 4 bed detatched. So this is when all my depression set back in and i've never felt so low as i did last time (1995). A really good friend came with me into the GPs, she waited in the waiting room while i went in to see the GP who has said I can go up to 20mg citalopram. I'm having terrible mood swings, up then down, tears, making nasty comments to my hub ie when he asks does this "new" wallpaper look nice.

Btw it's our silver wedding in a couple of weeks time and we're going to Lanzarote. At this rate 25yrs will be over because of how i am atm.

I hope i've joined the right place. I don't know who's who on here. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
« Last Edit: September 03, 2012, 12:24:35 PM by Northegal »

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« Reply #1 on: September 03, 2012, 12:37:17 PM »
Hello G.  +_+ . There are a lot of caring supportive people on this site.  They have helped me with advice and understanding. I'm sure that they will welcome you too. These forums are a safe place to talk about how you are feeling, and how what's going on is effecting you. Not everyone will have experienced the same as you, but many will be able to offer advice and sympathy when it's needed. I hope that you find the site as helpful as I have. Best wishes.
« Last Edit: September 03, 2012, 03:55:29 PM by Michael Frankum »

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« Reply #2 on: September 03, 2012, 12:42:11 PM »
Welcome, you've certainly got a lot to worry about so I'm not suprised it's making you depressed.  You will get plenty of support here  *()

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« Reply #3 on: September 03, 2012, 01:01:48 PM »
Hi Northegal, and welcome!

This forum is very friendly and supportive. It's a great place to vent frustrations and talk about how we are feeling.
I do wish you well on your journey, and let us know how you are doing.
Depression can be a lonely battle and I've found the forum a wonderful support and outlet.

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« Reply #4 on: September 03, 2012, 01:41:12 PM »
Hello  +-_ and welcome to the forum.

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« Reply #5 on: September 03, 2012, 01:43:13 PM »
Thank you to those who have welcomed me so far  =+-

Any ideas as to how to cope with any of my things please?

G

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« Reply #6 on: September 03, 2012, 01:56:26 PM »
Has your GP suggested any extra support methods, eg psychotherapy or CBT?
I have heard that MIND offers good courses / support groups.

Have a look through the forums and topics - what others have written in the past can be a big help.

I find that writing a Journal on this forum, is a big help. Just writing how I'm feeling helps me so much. Also, others can comment on your journal and give you support and advice.
You can find the pages here:
Depression Forums > General  > Journals

Let us know how you get on!


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« Reply #7 on: September 03, 2012, 04:56:13 PM »
Has your GP suggested any extra support methods, eg psychotherapy or CBT?
I have heard that MIND offers good courses / support groups.

Have a look through the forums and topics - what others have written in the past can be a big help.

I find that writing a Journal on this forum, is a big help. Just writing how I'm feeling helps me so much. Also, others can comment on your journal and give you support and advice.
You can find the pages here:
Depression Forums > General  > Journals

Let us know how you get on!



Hi PaulaJo,

Thank you for your kind reply.

No my GP hasn't mentioned any extra support methods, eg psychotherapy or CBT but i'm not sure if I would really want this. I feel as though I'm happy if i can just chat here on the forum etc.

Thanks for the mention about the MIND thing. I had a look at the website and this looks another good place to go to.

I'm having a good browse now and again of the forums and topics & seeing what others have written. This is of some help and knowing i'm not on my own in all this.

I've also written on the Journal forum. Hope i've done it right.

Thank you once again.

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« Reply #8 on: September 03, 2012, 05:13:49 PM »
Hi again Northegal,

I'm sure you'll find the forums a good safe place to offload how you're feeling.
I find the Journal space is a great place to express how I'm feeling, and also to support others. We may not be able to solve each others' problems but it does feel better getting things off your chest.
Hopefully MIND have services in your area.

All the best!
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« Reply #9 on: September 03, 2012, 05:43:07 PM »
Hi again Northegal,

I'm sure you'll find the forums a good safe place to offload how you're feeling.
I find the Journal space is a great place to express how I'm feeling, and also to support others. We may not be able to solve each others' problems but it does feel better getting things off your chest.
Hopefully MIND have services in your area.

All the best!
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Thank you so much PaulaJo, for your kind replies and help  *()

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« Reply #10 on: September 03, 2012, 06:17:54 PM »
Hi and welcome  *()

Personally I find a combination of meds and counselling works best for me

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« Reply #11 on: September 03, 2012, 08:39:16 PM »
I found our local MIND centre to be great, I have done a couple of courses with them (they were run by people that have suffered with depression themselves), I also did my CBT with them.  I recently had counselling with them as well, this helped me the most, I was sceptical, but went as my dr advised it.  It really helped me see why I think as I do.  So well worth giving them a ring or an email.

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