living alone better than living with someone????

[zeemiller]

i currently live alone and stay over at a friends house 3 times a week mainly at weekends etc, its sumtimes nice to get time on my own as being with sum1 full time seems hard work and too much at times however living alone seems to bring lonely times mostly in winter etc.
i am having problems with noisy neighbours where my flat is and am considering moving but the choice is into another flat on my own or full time with a friend and just have my own room etc, bit stuck what is best?????

[Sweetpea]

This is a difficult choice for you. I think you will have to think carefully before making a decision. Maybe write all the pro's and con's down of each. Then see what's best for you. S x x x x

[Zaf]

Thats probably the best way

Z xx

[Catbrian]

Shaz gave good suggestion, zee. 

It sounds like you enjoy company, so it could work out, as long as you both respect each others space.  I shared successfully with a good friend many years ago.  If either of our bedroom doors were closed, we left alone.  Then when I came to London, I shared with 4 colleagues and soon began to tire of the noise.  Best to be sure, see if you can agree some ground rules with your friend before finally deciding. You'll probably find they'll also want their own space at times, but watch out if they're looking to invite friends over too often.

Good luck

[zeemiller]

will do the list of good and bad reasons etc think its a good idea just hope clear pro or no etc if not may be back on here and share the list 8-)

[Catbrian]

no worries zee.  Good luck

[Sweetpea]

Hope it helps. Good luck :). S x x x x

[sad sack]

I have been lucky enough to have women that wanted to live with me.... I just can't do it.... Much prefer on my own... At the moment.

I'm trying hard, very hard to change, not sure how many goes at love you get on this earth, but I'm worried I've either ran out, or about to... :-(

That's not to say I'm desperate, maybe just not through them out for stupid, little, meaningless things like a complete idiot...

:wall:

[justme]

Hi Sad sack, it might just be something that you can't do right at this moment in time but that doesn't mean it will always be that way!

I at the moment am living in the same house as the man I've had a relationship with and the relationship is over and it's my house but he has no where to go right at the moment and has lost his job so I don't have the heart to make him homeless but it's having a very negative effect on me and is making me feel like I never want to be in another relationship again, never want to fall in love as I always either mess it up or get used and dumped! Living with ongoing mental health conditions makes us vurnerable and at times needy!! This is where I feel I just want to be normal!! What ever the hell that is!!

Anyway my suggestion would be just take life one day at a time and don't worry about the small things, focus on yourself and liking the person you see when you look in the mirror (if you can look that is, I struggLe so much with that)!!
Hope this has been a little bit helpful. X