Help...bad place all of a sudden - what next?

[hopeful]

Hi all,

I'm a new member but hope you can help. Joined when I was feeling ok but have had a terrible weekend.

Thought I was coping but this weekend cancelled an outing I'd been looking forward to for weeks because I couldn't move, get dressed, get washed. Was either comatose or crying my eyes out for the rest of it, thinking about ending it all. My husband is at his wits end and tells me I shouldn't I go into work tomorrow. I'm worried about the implications of not going into work and the trouble that will cause, but part of me know he's right and I need to get help. Any ideas welcome. I probably can get up and struggle through work but I know I'm not right and don't know where to ask for help and what to do next. My GP is useless and I couldn't get a last minute appointment unless I was on fire. My therapist is on holiday.

Any ideas?

[Sallas]

I already called in sick to work for tomorrow, i need a day to get head right. I was much happier (well) when i made the decision not to go in, it took some of the pressure off. So insay take it off and look after u hopefully u will feel bettter on tuesday.

[hopeful]

Sallas,

I've read the posts tonight looking for help, and seen yours. I think it's amazing that you would offer help and advice to me seeing as you're in such a bad place yourself.  Thank you so much, you're clearly a kind wonderful person to do so. I will see how I feel tomorrow morning but think it's best I phone the community mental health department if not well. I have too many toxic anti-d's in my posession to make it safe for me to be alone and feeling this bad. Thanks again x

[Michael Frankum]

Hello Hopeful. I hope that you can take time for yourself. Your husband sounds very supportive, and as you saw from Sallas, there are people here who listen and care. That's got to be a good thing. Best wishes.

[Ezel]

hopeful, listen to your husband as he wouldn't be saying things to you if he didn't care.  Have you thought about changing doctor?

[Michael Frankum]

Hi Hopeful. &(* How have things been today? Did you manage to get the help you needed? Take care.

[hopeful]

Thanks for the advice and concern all. In the end I had no choice but to take time off work as I wasn't functioning at all - couldn't get up and get washed, let alone leave the house. I had to tell my boss about my depression so will see if that makes things worse or if I may get some more support. Fingers crossed.

[Zaf]

I hope you get the support you need xxx

[hopeful]

I was feeling a bit calmer after a week off work, during which I was pretty much a zombie and slept most of the time  But today was getting much more anxious as I approach the countdown to going back in. I know I'm going to get called into a room by the boss and will have to explain it to him.

Any ideas on how to explain depression to someone who has showed very little empathy to me in the past? 

x

[Michael Frankum]

Have you any close friends at work, who understand what is going on for you? If so, perhaps they could support you. I try to get support for difficult situations where possible. Good luck hopeful.

[hopeful]

Well, I went back in to a surprising amount of support, including boss. So much so that they sent me home because I couldn't stop crying, telling me to take the time I needed to get better.

So another question for you all - how do you know when you're ready to go back in? What should I say to my GP?

x

[Buttercup]

Hmmmm,  My GP is incredibly supportive on the work front.  She says that you know when you're ready when the idea of going back doesn't but you into a state of complete panic, maybe mild anxiety but not panic. 

You can also get Fit notes now which help with a graduated return to work.

xxx

[PaulaJo]

Hi hopeful, what great news that they are so supportive. Really wonderful to know there are some people out there who are understanding!

 %^%

[hopeful]

Thanks buttercup, that is great advice. When I went back in this week I was hyperventilating, had chest pains and was crying on the journey in. So I think that's a great way to measure and explain things. I also didn't know about the fit notes and phased return, I will chat to my GP about it. The next thing I need to tackle is talking about changing my meds, but there's probably other posts on that. Thanks guys xx

[Buttercup]

Yep, I agree that that was your bodies way of saying it's not the right time yet.

What meds are you on?