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« on: August 14, 2012, 08:42:52 PM »
Hi I'm Sam,
     I've just signed up and I'm really really nervous!! I feel that I've been suffering from depression for a few years now. my mother had a break down about 5 years ago due to my parents going bankrupt and has suffered from clinical depression ever since, through out which I had to be a rock for her to help her get better, at her worse I would come home from school on the bus expecting to be told that she'd ran away or worse! I feel that because of her depression my parent either can't or won't see that i might be suffering from it too, as well as many people having the view point that only older people with families and big jobs and mortgages can suffer.
   I've not been to my GP as I'm worried that people would fine out or my parents would and I'm scared my mother wouldn't cope very well with it as it'd make her think it was her fault.
   i feel that my future is so bleak and grey, like I'm running a race with no finishing line. Sorry to seem like I'm moaning but really could use some help!!
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« Reply #1 on: August 14, 2012, 08:45:31 PM »
Hi and welcome  *()

You really do need to try to see your doctor, patient information is confidential so it shouldnt be divulged to your parents

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« Reply #2 on: August 14, 2012, 08:46:27 PM »
Hi and welcome.  ^-^

I can only echo what Zaf has suggested.

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« Reply #3 on: August 14, 2012, 08:46:28 PM »
Hello and welcome to the forum. We are a friendly bunch so please don't be nervous :). S x x x x
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« Reply #4 on: August 14, 2012, 08:53:28 PM »
Thank you for the advise I'm going try and book an appointment tomorrow for next week! I do feel nervous about it as going to the doctors sort of feels like admitting it and allowing it to be true! I know I have to but it's just really hard.
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« Reply #5 on: August 14, 2012, 08:59:54 PM »
It is desperately hard but very necessary  %^%
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« Reply #6 on: August 14, 2012, 09:39:50 PM »
Hi and welcome

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« Reply #7 on: August 15, 2012, 02:06:57 PM »
Hi how are you?

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« Reply #8 on: August 15, 2012, 03:45:31 PM »
Hi and welcome Sam!

I can really relate. My mother had/ has anxiety, and depression. She was diagnosed 15 years ago and it got so bad, she weighed about 40kg when she was admitted to hospital (inability to eat due to anxiety). It is now well managed with medication, which took her a long time to find something that worked for her.
When I was in uni I was also diagnosed with depression - at first she was in denial that I might have depression, because I think she just didn't want me to have what she has.
But eventually when my GP prescribed anti-depressants it hit home. (The GP didn't tell her about the medication; I did. GPs have to be confidential).

What came out of it, is that in fact it has helped us bond, and I rely on her a lot for advice and support. Because she has 'been there, done that, got the meds' it isn't all new to her when I ask her about stuff. It has also been re-assuring, when I've been going through side-effects with new medication, to have her support (and past experience too).

You never know - perhaps in time to come this will add to your relationship with your Mum.

Great that you've made an appointment - I recommend you go see your GP. It is important you look after your health - physical as well as mental.
I wish you all the best!

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« Reply #9 on: August 15, 2012, 10:40:23 PM »
Hey sample

I echo what the others have written.  I used to dread going home after school due to my own mother suffering depression.  Oddly enough, she isn't very supportive of my mental health... never talks and when I'm at my worst, she doesn't want to know and usually breaks contact for a  while. 

The Doc will never break confidentiality.  If you eventually tell mum, I hope the experience mirrors Paula's

Good luck


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« Reply #10 on: August 20, 2012, 07:00:48 PM »
hi, i've just got back from the doctors and i've been given a low dosage of medication for depression. I had spoken to my parents and they were really supportive and said that they had known that something was wrong. It feels like a great wait has been lifted now that I'm doing something about it! thank you for the support and advise it really means a lot to me.  $%$
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« Reply #11 on: August 20, 2012, 07:09:07 PM »
That is good news. S x x x x
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« Reply #12 on: August 20, 2012, 07:23:35 PM »
Its good to hear you've taken a step towards recovery xxx
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« Reply #13 on: August 20, 2012, 08:19:56 PM »
Hello. Not been on before. So, hello.

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« Reply #14 on: August 20, 2012, 08:20:47 PM »
Hi  _)_  *()
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