I am having a battle at the moment....
I have a psychical disability as well as depression and its illegal over here not to disclose it and your employer can sack you on the spot for not declaring it.
In the past I didnt disclose it, got a job and a year later had a bad time with depression I had to have a week off to get myself together and start adjusting to the new meds and my employer found out and sacked me for not disclosing but did admit he wouldnt have given me the job had he known,
So I am in a catch 22 situation here as if i disclose I dont get employed if I do and they find out Im gone
Its miffing me off so much....
I am so upset and fed up with the constant battle with this its hard enough getting out of bed in the morning and making myself do the things I have to and trying to get at least two things done on my to do list, and apply for jobs who I get an interview with and then no further, they have not admitted its due to my disabilities both psychically and mentally but have said they don't think I could cope or handle this, that, and the other which I know is them saying they think my disability/ mental health is an issue
I just dont know what to do anymore
Our situation at the moment is horrible though I am grateful for the roof over my head me and my other half are living with his parents, his brother and sister are 18 and 20 and are driving me insane! They always have their friends round so there's often them and three friends each in the house , making it noisy, stressful and there is no where to go for peace, we don't have a space of our own to retreat to. His sister does no house work and refuses to do the dishes saying she hates doing them today she had a conversation with her friends after a large and messy tea party that she dsnt do dishes and her friend said well you have to get over that and she said no I dont cause someone else cant do it because Im not doing it. Me and my other half were left to clean it all up other wise his dad would have went mad!
She is very selfish and throws strops when she dosnt get her own way and is NEVER forced to do anything she doesnt want to by her parents where as both my other half and their brother are..... They are expected to dishes etc... she isnt.... it miffs me off she gets let off all the time!!!!! I am forever cleaning up her mess she will say oh if you do the kitchen Ill do the bathroom and never does it and im left doing that to because I dont want their poor mother who works overseas most of the week to come home to mess!
Their gran pops in unannounced sometimes and if I have had a awful night with my leg or depression I get up later, so she comes and it may be a mess because I havent got up and tidied yet, his sister gets up at 8am so has lots of time to make a mess >_< or ignore it
so last week she came and shouted for me to get up and then began telling me what a selfish person I was for not keeping the house clean and how useless and disgusting i am and how I dont deserve a roof over my head etc... she was saying the same to his sister ok saying it to me is bad but to your own granddaughter its disgusting.... anywho.... I helped tidy and clean up even though i was in agony with my leg and instead of leaving it and acknowledging I was doing the work and sorting it out she continued to lay into me and say some really horrible things....
We had reserved a house a few doors down as it was super cheap and at this point I was glad we were moving out that thought helped me through her nastyness however that afternoon we found out the landlady refused to have us rent it even though we passed all the estate agents checks.... it was because she wanted people over 30 to rent it and saw us as disrespectful potentially property damaging youngsters..... so were still stuck here until I get a job we cant move out on one wage unless its cheap and they dont come around that often.....
I am struggling
