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heatherm2211

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The Little Things!
« on: May 19, 2010, 02:46:24 PM »
Does anybody else feel like they are really sensitive? Like any little thing can just wind you up or get you annoyed/upset? This has been my problem for ages now, and it really gets to me.

People say 'Well don't let it get to you, it's not worth it' Yes, It's not worth it, but I still can't help let it get to me!
Just little things like something going wrong, like yesterday I was at the Gym and I couldn't use the swimming pool because it was busy, and it ruined my whole day just because one little thing went wrong. When I think about it, it's pathetic that I get so upset or annoyed over tiny things that shouldn't really matter, but I can't help it!

Does anybody else feel like this? So I know I'm not just being over sensitive!

Please reply!

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« Reply #1 on: May 19, 2010, 05:09:57 PM »
Oh wow, I am glad you brought that up. I am hypersensitive and I am a guy!! The silliest of things can really get me down or upset/annoyed. I usually find it happens with people who I value in my life. But its so weird cause it can happen without warning and be quite unexpected. One moment I can be fine and the next I can be REALLY depressed because of something that happens. I tend to go very quiet after something like that happens and want to be left alone (even more so than normal)...

I keep telling myself not to be so sensitive but I just can't help it. I can't help the way I feel and I can't help being overlysensitive. I get so mad when people say "Just deal with it" because I just can't.

Any ideas how I can "desensitise" myself? I think most people would laugh at me if they realised how sensitive I am for a guy... !???!

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« Reply #2 on: May 19, 2010, 05:48:51 PM »
@JohnGalt:

I'm EXACTLY the same! Its nice to know I'm not the only one :)
+ I think the only thing I've found that could work is trying to look at the situation differently, like turn the negative into positive.

e.g... when I went into the gym yesterday and the pool was too busy, I was really depressed and almost crying  because of it but, what I could of done is thought to myself 'Oh well theres always next time' Sort of thing, and get home and do something else I enjoyed instead to replace the swimming. And I did check the pool times on the way out, so I know better for next time :)

Just little things like that can help I guess, just looking at the situation differently. Mind you it is hard :S Maybe you could give that a try? It's the only thing I can think of, but if I find other ways - I'll let you know!

& By the way, I don't think people will laugh if they realise how sensitive you are, if you do find ways to work on it, I'm sure people would think it's sweet - a man showing their sensitive side! Thats from a womans (well young woman haha) perspective! :)

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« Reply #3 on: May 19, 2010, 10:22:54 PM »
I can guarentee that you aren't the only one that feels this way! Sometimes I'm feeling too weak to be able to look at things from a different angle or I'm feeling so depressed that I just couldn't be bothered. I had an incident at the works Xmas party last year where I saw something happen and it hit me like a train. I felt awful for days after that. It was such a small thing but it upset me greatly.

I do think I have somewhat improved with age with this as I can shrug off some things but I still get something that comes along occassionally that hits me hard in the chest and I just can't deal with it.

I dunno if being so oversensitive is a good thing or a bad thing for a guy to be honest! I don't tell anyone that I am sensitive but some perceptive people do pick up on it. I find it more a curse to be honest as it prevents me from doing stuff as I don't wanna be hurt. Sigh...I feel so screwed up sometimes.... $%^

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« Reply #4 on: May 20, 2010, 11:24:50 AM »
Yeah I know the exact feelings, its sh** to be honest! It's fine when you have a good day but when the slightest thing goes wrong... it's awful.

And I know what you mean, but you're not screwed up because of it! It's not your fault you feel that way, its just the way you're mind is working at the moment. Do you have a counsellor/therapist or do CCBT sessions? Maybe they could help you?

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« Reply #5 on: May 20, 2010, 01:24:01 PM »
I always remind myself that theres no right or wrong way to feel but it still doesn't help.

No, I don't have a therapist at the moment. Its been years since I was in therapy. A month ago I tried to find a therapist but they were full so I just didn't bother after that. Been having varying degrees of depression over the last few weeks. I think I have just given up, I'll never be "normal" and feel ok everyday or be able to deal with what life sends my way.

Happiness is just not to be for me... $%^

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« Reply #6 on: May 20, 2010, 07:11:57 PM »
Okay, well what about CCBT? Computurised Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? I've found it really helpful, I don't know about you.

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« Reply #7 on: May 20, 2010, 10:06:26 PM »
What is Computurised Cognitive Behavioural Therapy? I have never heard of this!! Done therapy, anti depressants, psychologists etc but never heard of this.

I know this sounds negative but I have really tried to be a happy person but no matter what I try I always seem to default to being depressed and miserable. SIGH.

PS: I really enjoy your posts heatherm2211. You are a really strong person and I admire that!

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« Reply #8 on: May 20, 2010, 11:13:28 PM »
Aww thankyou  :D Still have a lot of problems to deal with though!

+ It's more a self help thing than anything else, basically you're on a computer (obviously... *() ) on this website, and you do weekly sessions which goes through things that people might experience when suffering from depression & anxiety. The main thing that is does, is 'challenges' you're negative thinking and gives you ideas on what to do to change the negative thinking into positive thinking. It even helps you with stuff like sleep, and activities you can do etc. And each session you see videos of other people who suffered from depression, and what different problems they had etc etc.

I can go on, but I found it really helpful, try and find out where CCBT sessions are going on near you if you're interested, and it is free. Or if there isn't any locally just do it weekly online, have a look at:

www.beatingtheblues.co.uk

It says it all there, sure it can be corny sometimes but, it's good!
Plus you feel like you've achieved something at the end of all the sessions because it encourages you to be constructive throughout.

And I know how you're feeling, I didn't think any counselling or therapy etc would work because I was feeling so low, but I forced myself to have an open mind about things, and it worked, I mean I'm still not miraculously cured but I'm definately improving :)

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« Reply #9 on: June 05, 2010, 04:51:05 PM »
Aww thankyou  :D Still have a lot of problems to deal with though!

+ It's more a self help thing than anything else, basically you're on a computer (obviously... *() ) on this website, and you do weekly sessions which goes through things that people might experience when suffering from depression & anxiety. The main thing that is does, is 'challenges' you're negative thinking and gives you ideas on what to do to change the negative thinking into positive thinking. It even helps you with stuff like sleep, and activities you can do etc. And each session you see videos of other people who suffered from depression, and what different problems they had etc etc.

I can go on, but I found it really helpful, try and find out where CCBT sessions are going on near you if you're interested, and it is free. Or if there isn't any locally just do it weekly online, have a look at:

www.beatingtheblues.co.uk

It says it all there, sure it can be corny sometimes but, it's good!
Plus you feel like you've achieved something at the end of all the sessions because it encourages you to be constructive throughout.

And I know how you're feeling, I didn't think any counselling or therapy etc would work because I was feeling so low, but I forced myself to have an open mind about things, and it worked, I mean I'm still not miraculously cured but I'm definately improving :)

Thanks for the web site! It looks really good but I couldn't find a way of signing up for the course online? It says I need an activation code which I dont have. I dont know how to get one of these, can you help?

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« Reply #10 on: June 06, 2010, 11:48:46 AM »
Hmmm I'm not sure to be honest :S
Quick question - do you live in the UK or elsewhere? Because I'm not sure what CCBT services are like in other countries :/ Sounds a bit random I know haha.
Reply back when you can x

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« Reply #11 on: June 06, 2010, 10:06:43 PM »
I've been incredibly busy with work recently as we've taken on a shop and taken staff on but it hasn't stopped us having long days  <,> so catching up here.

To get back tlo your original question I can be very over sensitive at times so have learnt to recognise when I am and take a deep breath first before I open my mouth.  Still have my moments at times that I don't get my brain into first gear though *() ...will have a look at that link supplied now ;)

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« Reply #12 on: June 21, 2010, 08:42:01 PM »
Yes, I can really relate to that. I'm exactly the same.

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« Reply #13 on: June 25, 2010, 10:39:13 AM »
Heh, i can totally relate. Last week I started crying because the sandwhich I bought for lunch didn't taste as good as it normally does. :s
Sounds so stupid, but i was seriously upset at the time.

I also cried with happiness a couple nights ago. I was watching that car advert where the guy see's his dad in drag outside a club and asks if he can get him and his friends into the club and i thought how happy his dad must have been and started welling up.

It's only been recently though. I used to just get really angry instead, and yell at the TV to relieve stress.

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« Reply #14 on: August 04, 2010, 01:00:45 AM »
Oh yes, I can totally relate to this! I find my depression makes me sensitive to the most silliest of things that normally wouldn't bother me in the slightest. For example, perhaps I'll drop my keys, or the supermarket won't have something I need, or once even because I put my sock on inside out! I cry at everything, it's awful. Some things I don't even understand - for example, I cooked my mum a risotto last time she came to stay, and she said she'd never made risotto, that she just used the ready made rice from a packet. And for some reason, that made me cry my heart out (and in fact I'm welling up now just thinking of it) and I have no idea why! Also To whoever posted above about the advert with the dad in drag (sorry didn't catch the name) omg yes! That makes me cry everytime because I get so emotional that the son is proud of his dad whatever! It's good to know it's not just me - maybe I'm not crazy after all, or at least if I am, I have company :)