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Sweetpea

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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #30 on: June 10, 2012, 09:03:01 PM »
Exactly, we are all different, and want and need different things from relationships and life.

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mrmoody

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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #31 on: June 10, 2012, 09:19:30 PM »
no doubt she did Shaz. thats if she even did.
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #32 on: June 10, 2012, 09:27:39 PM »
One of the worst experiences of my life was watching my ex - who I still loved very much - get together with someone else only 2 wks after we broke up. I found it difficult to become intimate with other people because I was still very much in love with someone who didn't love me.
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #33 on: June 13, 2012, 02:31:17 PM »
Quote from: Catb on June 10, 2012, 09:27:39 PM
One of the worst experiences of my life was watching my ex - who I still loved very much - get together with someone else only 2 wks after we broke up. I found it difficult to become intimate with other people because I was still very much in love with someone who didn't love me.

It's always easier and quicker for the "dumper" to move on, as they have finished and closed the relationship off far earlier in their own minds...

The "dumpee" is alwayd hurt and lost and 90% of the time, it comes out the blue and is a major shock for them....

Not saying any of that will help, but, just saying it's perfectly normal...

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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #34 on: June 13, 2012, 05:18:21 PM »
I dont think its perfectly normal. I think its BS that someone is saying three weeks prior to them being in this 'very serious' relationship they are telling me how much they want to be single and alone and love is over-rated. So in the space of two weeks, she went on a dating site, found someone, met them and then was 'very serious'. I have been on a dating site for 2 months now and not met a single person
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #35 on: June 13, 2012, 05:26:13 PM »
I'm convinced she found someone else that quick as she didnt want to be alone but doesnt have the feelings for him she is saying
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #36 on: June 13, 2012, 05:47:27 PM »
I think then that people are no better than dogs, in fact at least dogs are loyal
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #37 on: June 13, 2012, 05:56:56 PM »
I agree with Zaf, some people just can't be on their own and need to be with somebody, whether they love them or not  :(.

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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #38 on: June 13, 2012, 06:56:58 PM »
Quote from: mrmoody on June 13, 2012, 05:18:21 PM
I dont think its perfectly normal. I think its BS that someone is saying three weeks prior to them being in this 'very serious' relationship they are telling me how much they want to be single and alone and love is over-rated. So in the space of two weeks, she went on a dating site, found someone, met them and then was 'very serious'. I have been on a dating site for 2 months now and not met a single person

what people say and how they feel are sometimes 2 different things...

she was just trying to let you down gently, she was obviously ready to move on..

everyone has different time frames on when they feel ready to move on... there is no rights or wrongs...
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #39 on: June 13, 2012, 07:57:03 PM »
Um mr moody I kinda understand what you're saying but Mr Sad sack also has a point.  

People definitely do say one thing but feel another.   I've spent nearly 50years trying to figure that one out.   The person who dumps has already prepared for moving on and the slimey scum bag doesn't have the heavy baggage of rejection to contend with, so it is easy for them to start afresh  

Of course not all people are like that mr moody....but the ones who are (like your friend) are usually not worth bothering about. If she can jump from one idea to the next then it's probably blessed you've had a lucky escape!!
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« Reply #40 on: June 14, 2012, 01:40:25 PM »
and this is not even a quote this is what she wrote

"thats just it alex i don't want to be with anyone ever,it all hurts to much when it goes wrong which it always seems to do,so personally i don't want to share anythign with another human being in that way again, i don't trust people,men now scare me greatly i have a fear i've never had before so better all round if i stay alone

i don't feel worthy i certainly don't feel attractive i am the things you said i was and more i deserve the pain i have in my heart your right,thats why the things that have happened to me have because i have no vaule to men other then the obvious

but then i guess we all have pain like this inside hence we are depressed people"

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mrmoody

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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #41 on: June 14, 2012, 01:42:33 PM »
you dont know the back story sadsack and that my ex went out of her way to mess my head up and achieved that! there was alot lot more to this story than has been written just on this thread!
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mrmoody

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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #42 on: June 14, 2012, 01:44:17 PM »
anyways,not intrested anymore in what people here have to say,you dont know the full story and I am insulted that you said it was perfectly normal how she behaved. not in my book,not now not ever!
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mrmoody

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« Reply #43 on: June 14, 2012, 01:46:30 PM »
another piece of text she wrote

"you know how i know it's true because for awhile there even if it was just briefly you thought that was what i was doing again hence thats what you think i am

its ok i get why it's all men want. i just intend to never allow anyone near me again i've come to the conclusion thats best all round,in my core i know what i am and it's not good
if you hadn't of messed up alex i would have it would have gone wrong in the end it always does there are no happy endings are there "
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Re: no one cares, no one ever did and never will do
« Reply #44 on: June 14, 2012, 01:47:12 PM »
Wooo sorry!!!!

I do know people however... just because they say one thing, doesn't mean it’s true.

So what if she said that in her text/email whatever... it doesn't mean that is how she felt.

Always trust peoples actions, not their words... words are cheap, actions define the person.... feels like you took everything she said as gospel... and it's not always the case.

But you are right, I'm new, I don't know you or your story...and it's obvious that anyone trying to offer a different perspective into it isn't welcome...

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