no one cares, no one ever did and never will do

[Sweetpea]

You will always have us here Alex, you know that   ^&^

S x x x x

[Catbrian]

Alex - relationships are hard work.  I've had my fair share of rejections and two broken relationships.  After the second, I decided to give myself time to be alone. I figured I was still lonely in the relationship, why not save myself some grief and be celibate for a while.  A couple of friends playfully mocked as I told them of my plans. 13 years later, I can honestly tell you it has saved me a lot of heartache. I've had my own problems, taking on someone else's, for me, is out of the question. They say love comes along when you're not looking....I bloody hope not!!  It's good to be celibate, even just for a wee while.

[mrmoody]

yeah kind of did that enforced celibacy for a number of years. it was seven years between relationships. Not sure if I really want to be alone for another 7 years again, I will be 46 then. only been in two relationships, 6 years out of of 39 years.

[woozywoo]

Relationships are over rated....

[Tinkerbell]

Hi Alex,

I have just returned here and I can see that people here are friendly :) I know people maybe faraway but they do still care I can see that, I am a good listener, You can message me anytime if you want, Many hugs to you.

Tink.xxx

[mrmoody]

I dont think relationships are over-rated, if I thought like that I would go live the life of a hermit somewhere which I have seriously considered at times.I doubt I would last long, especially after my jaunt to Tuscany and living with just George for company most of the time. We are social beings and we need family and friends and lovers too. Sometimes all of those people can cause us pain too,they can be hard work sometimes but when they are good they are good and thats what I like to remember. True sometimes I remember all the hurt too. It only hurts because you also remember the good stuff too.

[Zaf]

Something in the readings today Alex  "we need stormy weather to appreciate the sunshine"  but it would be nice if the storms didnt last so long

Z xx

[mrmoody]

agreed Zaf! we cant appreciate the light without the darkness. Oh and thanks Tink!

[Sweetpea]

Just hope you get the light soon Alex  :).

S x x x x

[Zaf]

Me too &*(

[woozywoo]

You are right again, we do need relationships and people around us.

I just meant that when things are good relationships can be wonderful But when they arent which mine hasnt been for years then relationships do seem over rated!

[Catbrian]

((((((((((((((((((((((((((( $%^ Shinning light on Alex
I agree with Alex....to a point. It is good to try be alone for a time to sort out our own issues before taking on relationships. For me, my celibacy got a bit out of hand and is now part of my agoraphobia....so, I'm not exactly the best one to give advise on this

[mrmoody]

me too Shaz, me too cos its been so effing dark recently as you know! I dont mean to be right woozy, I only speak for myself and not others. Just something my ex said not only after dumping me but actually when I first spoke to her online that 'love is over-rated'. Strange that seeing as she got into a new relationship just 3 weeks after that statement to me and a mere 4 months after dumping me!

[Sweetpea]

Some people get into relationships for the wrong reasons though.  Maybe she just needs someone to be with.  Not meaning that she felt this way about you.

S x x x x

[mrmoody]

whats right for me isnt right for others. I can only vouch for myself and if I really wanted to be a hermit I would be out somewhere doing it, somewhere remote. I admit it appeals to me at times but no its not really what I want, I would be doing it because I have been hurt. Only very few people in this world can be true hermits. I have been remote places in Scotland and came back and here I am in a city again as its what I know