Author Topic: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?  (Read 3074 times)

Flea

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Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« on: March 26, 2010, 12:06:26 AM »
As above really!   $%^

As a group, we must have so much knowledge, experience and empathy with regards to depression, how it makes us feel and most importantly...how we can learn to deal with it.

I often log on to see if my posts have new responses, hoping someone can at least relate to how I feel, so I don't feel quite so &$%+...but there is only the odd few.  (Thank you to those who have offered support, it is very much appreciated...please don't take this personally). Why is this?   !???!

This is an amazing opportunity for us all to support each other, let's take advantage..... /.,

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #1 on: March 27, 2010, 12:25:55 AM »
Spot on, Amaretto!  Just look at the number of views that each post gets then tot up the number of replies...if any!

There do seem to be an awful lot of lurkers out there who look but don't post.  Come on, don't be shy, we can all benefit from the experience of others and everybody's opinions and thoughts are valid.

Don't just lurk - post something!! $%^

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #2 on: March 28, 2010, 06:31:35 AM »
Spot on, Amaretto!  Just look at the number of views that each post gets then tot up the number of replies...if any!

I agree. It's difficult to open up but I signed up to give help as well as get it! Even if you can't give or get advice, it's just nice knowing that their are others out there who know how you feel.

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Flea

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #3 on: April 05, 2010, 11:03:47 PM »
Having a desperate weekend.  Need to find another forum where there is more interaction.  Feel sooooo low. :-(

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #4 on: April 06, 2010, 10:45:48 AM »
I think people come onto to see if they can get any advice on depression...rather than posting they just read and lurk.  !???!

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #5 on: April 06, 2010, 02:57:48 PM »
I've only recently joined but I will start to pitch in where I can with the disclaimer that it's just my opinion  :)

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #6 on: April 06, 2010, 10:31:49 PM »
Firstly what's with all the funny icons?  Secondly why bother posting when obviously everyone reads and no one writes.  Thirdly, it's perfect for depressives who know there is no point. Fourthly, why does fourthly not sound right? and so on?
I've never tried forums b4 and maybe i can see why, it's so depressing reading about everyone else's depression and how long they've had it and how nothing helps.  So there really is no hope?  I am on 40mg citalopram which doesn't seem to help but i think that's because i just forgot how bad it was.  I find that as soon as a bout is over even i find it hard to believe, which makes it difficult to explain, even i think i am making it all up sometimes.  i also have CBT once a week for the last 2 months, this has helped to establish that my depression is a chemical illness and not caused by: bad marriage, stres at work, low self esteem, problems with teenage children, being ugly, stupid, inadequate etc etc they are all symptoms which CBT helps me to eradicate. Still left with the depression then.  What is so fantastic about this life or this world that OTHERS think is worth holding on to?  Lets have a nice warm pleasant suicide clinic that we can book into that can give a cause of death that our loved ones don't have to feel bad about?

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #7 on: April 07, 2010, 09:33:17 AM »
Well, I don't know about you but I find it comforting sometimes to know that others share the same problems as me and I'm not alone. I'd like to try to pick them up when they're down and for them to do the same for me. I won't comment on the rest as it was just plain unhelpful.

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #8 on: April 07, 2010, 06:37:48 PM »
Yep i agree that its helpful to read what others are going through, makes you feel like you arent alone! Well said tryingmybest :) Just a thought Amaretto but quite lately iv been googling various symptoms and sometimes they come up as links to a forum which i then go on to read to see if any of it applies to me, id love to leave replys all the time but most require you to sign up to post anything, and if it hasnt been quite what im looking for i usually move onto next one, that may be why so many are read but not many replys! So sorry to hear you had a bad weekend, hope you are feeling a little better now  %^&

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #9 on: April 07, 2010, 09:12:10 PM »
Thanks for that, i'll just add unhelpful to the list....

Flea

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Re: Lots of members, but not many responses..why?
« Reply #10 on: April 08, 2010, 12:32:06 AM »
happiness?  Icon used to add expression to the words that's all.

What do you need?  To help you?  What can any of us, who are feeling &$%+ too, do to help you thorugh this?