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Jae

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Apologies in advance ..
« on: February 20, 2012, 06:37:39 PM »
.. if I say anything a bit insensitive to anyone on here .. just want to help really, but I worry whether I am saying the right thing or not to people.  

I keep seeing people say things that rings bells with my own experiences, and just want to dive straight in there and reply .. but that might not always be the best thing.  It's difficult to know what to say, or how to play it sometimes, because different people react in different ways.  I guess we are all just trying to do our best, anyway  :)

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #1 on: February 20, 2012, 06:41:35 PM »
Dont worry Jae, if you go with whats in your heart you cant go far wrong :)
Certain things catch your eye, but pursue only those that capture your heart.

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #2 on: February 20, 2012, 06:46:11 PM »
I echo what Zaf says.

Personally I am just pleased to know that someone has read what I have typed.  We are all in a similar sort of boat and I am certain no one means anyone any offence.  What may work for some may not work for others, but I'll receive any suggestions in the spirit that I think they are offered - and its got to be better than being told to pull myself together.

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #3 on: February 20, 2012, 06:46:40 PM »
Aww .. that's a lovely thing to say, Zaf .. thank you.

I guess I am so used to saying things on other messageboards, and getting nasty spiteful responses out of the blue, that I kinda lost my confidence to post (other than things like cute cat pictures, and even that on another messageboard, someone decided to make sarcastic comments about).

It's altogether a lot more peaceful and accepting in this place  :)

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #4 on: February 20, 2012, 06:47:51 PM »
Thanks Sigh  :)  Interesting to get a feel for how others feel about it too.

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #5 on: February 20, 2012, 06:49:08 PM »
I agree everyone is different and if you can suggest something that helps, then thats good.

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2012, 06:50:51 PM »
As Sigh says, we are all affected by depression in one way or another and know that all contributions are made with the intention of helping

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #7 on: February 20, 2012, 09:16:26 PM »
I don't think you would offend anyone here. We are all genuinely ill in one way or another and if anyone else doesn't understand what we go through at least we have each other  :)

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Re: Apologies in advance ..
« Reply #8 on: February 21, 2012, 08:12:32 AM »
One good thing I have found about replying or posting on the forum, is that you can take your time in writing (or typing) and then re-read through it so that you can add/remove/edit anything you are posting.

Slightly better than having a conversation face to face in that you can't just blurt something out then regret saying it coz you think that you may have offended the person(s) you are speaking to.

Unfortunately, with the chemical imbalance that we are experiencing, it can be (at times) all too easy to read what has been posted and take it the wrong way.

I'm sure that you wouldn't intentionally set out to upset or offend anyone.
 :)

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