Advice please - I've lost everything!

[Aquaman]

3 years ago I was in the prime of my life, healthy, had a great career, marriage, 2 gorgeous children, nice house, nice car and I was so happy. Then I was stuck down with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. My life subsequently fell apart as I became wrapped up in my own living hell. I was in total denial and caused the breakdown of my marriage and I lost my job, which was my calling in life. Everything continued to spiral out of control and I lost my house all of my savings, pension, car.... well everything. Possessions are only that, but most of all I lost contact with my children. When I say that, I mean that I see them every other weekend, which is not enough. I miss my old life, friends and family too. I've made such a mess of everything!

I am receiving help for PTSD and taking meds etc, but I don't know how to get my life back on track?!
I have no friends because I pushed them all away and I'm not working because of the PTSD.

I really have no idea where I'm going or what I'm going to do? I'm almost 40 and to start again from nothing is so difficult. I am rock bottom and the only way is up. I try to be positive, but I feel so crap and I do not know what to do with my life? No matter what anybody else says... "It will all work out", "Keep your chin up", "You have you whole life ahead of you" etc etc, I feel that I have nothing. I can never get my career back due to PTSD and I only ever wanted to do that job and I hate the thought of doing anything else. I miss my children and literally hate my life as it is. I'm not suicidal, but how can I get over the past and move on?
How can I ever be happy again?

Thanks for taking the time to read about my spiral of doom!

[Munchroom]

Hi Aquaman and welcome  :)

Seems like you have been through a hell of a lot recently! I'm very pleased you have sought help and are on medication, recieving councilling etc - that is the first massive leap! I'm afraid I don't have the answers as getting my life back on track is something that I'm also struggiling with - but everyone keeps telling me that its little steps, day by day. Don't push yourself and don't give yourself impossible tasks, its takes time - which is the most frustrating thing of all!

Nay x

[Glen53]

Munchroom is right. Try to see things day by day if you can. The struggle you face is a tough one and will seem all the more daunting if viewed as a whole. Face each small problem as it comes and talk about how you feel when you can. These words seem so hollow when you are at the base of a cliff face looking up and thinking "how will I ever get back up there?"

There may be days when it seems too tough but it can be done, it will just take time and a lot of patience and hard work.

We are here to listen and support you in your fight. Please dont feel alone.

[Zaf]

both munchroom and Glen are right,  take it a day at a time if you can and ask for help and advice as often as you need to xx

[Got]

This is alot for you to adjust to. Its going to take a while to accept all this different issues, but time will allow your mind to amke sense of things.

In the mean time, like others said, a day at a time, even hour by hour if needs be.

I hope you find this forum useful, it helped me alot.

[Lol]

You have gone through a lot and are dealing with some really difficult feelings. PTSD is certainly not to be sniffed at and I'm really glad you are on meds and have found us. How can we help you?

Take Care
Lol

[no-one-special]

I don't think your realise how far you have come already !

You are still in contact with your children which is great where there is communication there is hope and a way forward.

If you can not do the job you were doing is the a connected job you could do ?

You have realised that possessions while nice are not the most important thing when compared to YOUR health and the love of your family so many people do not get that so you are already ahead of most people !

Ending your life will not make things better all it will do is leave a void. What will make things better is understanding that you can regain control.You can over come this and you are stronger than you think.

Look at what you have survived already. The road ahead is a lot less bumpy and soon it will be smooth enough for new foundations .

[Sweetpea]

I agree with all above, you have to take every minute at a time and try not to expect to much from yourself, easier said than done I know.  None of what happened was your fault.

Take care

S x

[lost rolex]

Hi and we done for telling us, we are in the same boat on here, we just traveled a different path to get here, hope you post again there must be so much you want to say, stay well man



LR

[cornish]

PTSD.   It's one of the things I suffer from and It hell.  I wish I knew what to say to help.