I think you're spot on Capt, it is strange to recognise a personal trait of ours in someone else. I had that feeling when watching the YouTube clip you posted. I also agree that we need a reason to instigate change; we need to really want it to happen.
Yesterday and today, I’ve been having a private BPD wobbly experience. It seems people with PD find criticism difficult to take. I can’t say I was majorly criticised, someone made a comment that I construed as criticism; or rather, my BPD, seen it as a criticism. Before I knew where I was, my entire world came crashing in around me; you would think this off-the-cuff comment was the worst thing anyone has ever said. Of course, I automatically went into defence and attack mode, which probably made matters worse.
Ordinarily, this sort of situation would end up ruining my whole weekend. The more I ruminate, the more that trivial comment rips me apart, resulting in my feeling useless, unloved, unwanted, hard done by…. However, by relating my response to a symptom of BPD, once again, I am able to see it for what it is and move forward, or try too. My uncertainty of such a new outlook feels like walking on eggshells, but I’m sure I’ll get used to myself soon enough.