Thought for the day.

[Jon]

I'm new to this site. Joined yesterday.
Depression is hitting me hard at present. I've recently broken up with a woman I truly loved who turned out to be something of a fantasist. I probably got out of the relationship just in time, before it became a complete emotional mess. Even so, it hurts like hell. On top of that I've just learned that most of my teeth need to be extracted in January and replaced by dentures. On top of that the dentist has spotted something nasty on my tongue so I'm waiting to be booked in for a biopsy. All in all, anxious times.
I thought I'd post up some occasional thoughts on depression in order to clear my head and hopefully be of some help to others.
For me, one of the most agonising things about feeling depressed is that, while the feeling is upon me, attacking me from all sides, it's as though the feeling is never ever going to go away. The agony feels like it's going to be there forever. Of course this brings on even more anxiety and it feels as though there is never going to be any escape from it. The feeling of happiness is, of course, the complete opposite. We don't question it. We don't ask ourselves whether we'll still be feeling happy in an hour, a day, a week.
So what I've started telling myself when I feel depressed, which is most of the time at the moment, is that this feeling has me in its grip at this moment but it WILL go away. And then I try to do something to make me feel better: walk my dog, talk to a friend, listen to my favourite music...
 

[Pip]

This is a great reason for starting a thread and have only moved it as this is a more appropriate place  $%$

[Jon]

Thanks Pip.

[Joycey]

Hi Jon, I am newish too, I joined a while ago but haven't posted for a while.  I too am under a cloud at the moment but I always remember something I heard Stephen Fry say in an interview about his depression.  He said that when he is feeling low he tells himself that it is raining inside his head, as with all rain eventually it will stop and the sun will come out again.  I have passed this on to my mum who is also bipolar and although, at 82,  she often struggles to understand things, this she did get. 

It will take a while, but trust me, one day you will look back on your relationship and feel relieved that you did not get any deeper involved.  It sounds like you have already started the process. 

Good luck Hon.   

[Jon]

Thanks Joycey.
I've left a message in reply to your other post.
I've had a good day today. Glimpses of sunshine and some more perspective on my recent relationship.
I met a friend of mine early morning who has just had half his nose removed due to cancer. He's recovering from reconstructive surgery and was so full of positivity that it made me start thinking differently about my situation. He's studied Mindfulness and it's clearly made such a positive impact on him that I've begun investigating that myself. Knowing that it's possible to get out of the trap of feeling besieged by horrible thoughts and feelings is a revelation to me.

[Joycey]

Sorry Jon, can't see another reply. 

Funny you should mention Mindfulness.  I am exploring Buddism at the moment.  I can't say I understand or believe everything they say but I find their philosophies really interesting and if nothing else it makes me stop and think during the course of my day.  I am really trying to find the right meditation process for me. 

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