The best kind of person that I would suggest to call a friend - is someone who allows you to be yourself and doesn't expect you to fit in to being who they want you to be.
Those who make off the cuff comments - if you don't like it, ignore it? Listening to words from others doesn't make us who we are. It makes us feel like we are the problem, when the reality is, they're the one with the problem they just don't know how to recognise that they are.
Friends who are not nice to you - are they really friends? or are they bullying acquaintances (people you know that you just hang around with to prevent yourself being the outsider - although they make you feel that way). I can speak from experience that whilst I can make new friends with relative ease - between 12-30 months later - most have buggered back off out of my life and barely pass the time of day with me (some I've even worked with - and now, if they see me, they look down their nose like I didn't exist - but if that's how they want to be - I let them do so, because I don't have to be "nice" to them, unless i'm at work and they're a customer.)
Complaining about work is one of those things that happens for the majority of people who have them. How many people do you actually know who have a job enjoy every minute of every day and never have a bad word to say about it? I don't think you'd find that many, not truly. I myself was signed off my last job for 5 months (on anti-depressants and having blood tests etc), before 5 months on the government hand out for job seeking individuals - but I persevered with trying to find something that I believed I would be better at. But even in the first 7 weeks I've been there - I could complain about the attitudes of most of the staff in there. But there's no need because that would only fuel me venting needlessly - wasting energy that I could use to better myself.
For what you've described - if I was personally in that exact same position - I would rather be alone than have so-called friends who do all of that. My time is more productive not being around those who want to bully or paint me out to be some sort of pauper to their "lord/lady" - when actually their attitude is what stinks. You'd probably be better off with no friends than friends who do this. Yes, loneliness isn't nice, but it's better than going through what you've described.
Maybe focus on just being yourself. And setting a goal to be who you want to be - not who others want you to be. Those who accept you for being yourself, are more likely to earn your respect as a person, not demand that you're the one who has to respect them.
