Hello (again)

[N17Fan]

Been here before, got myself sorted but the rewind button has been hit and back to square one :-(

Last time i was here i had an infatuation with a work colleague that was making me ill and depressed as i knew i could do nothing about the situation, but i did get through it and met someone who i thought i was going to spend the rest of my life with.

That was 3 years passed and just before Christmas the relationship mutually ended and I am back where i was. Im not sure whether i'm depressed or just a normal reaction to splitting up. I cry a bit but this tends to be in the afternoon when i always feel a low for some reason. I get panic attacks if i'm in claustrophobic situations (even in a car wash!) and nothing seems to interest me anymore.

I'm hoping it's just a normal reaction to the split so i keep telling myself to be positive, which is really difficult.

N17Fan.

[hippychick49]

Hello. It is very hard when a relationship ends even if it was a mutual decision. Be kind to yourself and take things easy if you can. If things don't improve, perhaps you could visit your GP.

[calm_one]

Hi N17FAN,

what your saying sounds perfectly normal. Totally agree with hippychick take it easy, go out with friends or visit family. Time is what you need right now, but if it goes on for too long do visit your doctor.

Look after yourself

X

[N17Fan]

Thanks hippychick49 and calm_one.

I am actually looking forward to going back to work to take my mind off things, i booked the new year week off as i was going to do diy round our house so im at a loose end and sitting in my old bedroom at my Mums!

Nearly 42 and back with the parents is not a good thing, though i am very thankful as otherwise i wouldnt have anywhere go.

Fingers crossed i can get through this, few tearful bits today, changing addresses on things, throwing clothes out that i will no longer wear (or fit!), and going round to my ex's to get more bits.

Heyho...

[Catbrian]

Dealing with a break up is never easy.  I think, when we're prone to bouts of depression, an emotional blow like this can really take the feet from us.

I can understand your feelings about being back in a bedroom at your parents, but try hard to see it as your temporary safe haven and take note and comfort from the security of it, rather than feel the negative.  Prepare yourself for new ventures because there will be many, I'm quite sure of it.

I hope the visit to the ex to collect more things goes without too much heartache.  It's perfectly natural to allow those tears, they help to wash away some of the old.  Rome wasn't built in a day.... and you too will get to wherever you want

[N17Fan]

Thanks for those words Catb, they have really helped...

The visit to my ex's went ok, we dont shout or argue, we both accept that we have just drifted apart, though when i left, we both cried on the doorstep for a while and hugged.

Doesn't make things easier that...

I know my issues are minuscule compared to other poor souls on here but i really do want to go to sleep and not wake up as i have no purpose in life anymore...

N17Fan.