Author Topic: Im in such a bad place at the moment and dont know what to do anymore.  (Read 1825 times)

Jules

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My life has recently took a turn for the worse. I lost my job a few months ago, I found a new job quite quickly, but the problems had already started. The bills mounted, the arguements with my fiancee started, the pressure was really on.
Then over the past 3 months, my fiancee started to lie to me alot, started staying with friends apparantly , stayed where she was staying, but told me she wanted to come home, but wanted to go see her mum and dad first, she never returned. She ignored most of my texts, but told me she was ending our relationship. Im devastated, we been together for 10 years, I gave up my friends, my social life to devote my life to katie, we did everything together, now I am left with nothing and nobody. I could go into great detail, but I would be typing all night.
I now think that she had met someone else and was seeing them behind my back.
Im so hurt, heartbroken and very very down. How do you get over something like this ? I have been diagnosed with severe depression by crisis team at hospital and started taking prozac, but this doesnt stop the pain I am feeling inside.

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Re: Im in such a bad place at the moment and dont know what to do anymore.
« Reply #1 on: August 19, 2012, 09:33:54 PM »
The prozac will take 2-3 weeks to kick in Jules,  it must feel like a berevenent,  perhaps some counselling might help?

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Re: Im in such a bad place at the moment and dont know what to do anymore.
« Reply #2 on: August 19, 2012, 09:34:30 PM »
Hi Jules and welcome. Sorry you are having such a hard time. Has the crisis team sorted you out any counselling?

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« Reply #3 on: August 19, 2012, 09:42:09 PM »
Hello and welcome. This is very hard for you. The meds may take a couple of weeks to start working. I agree some counselling could help you. S x x x x
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« Reply #4 on: August 19, 2012, 09:54:31 PM »
Sorry to her that, i have no idea how hard it much be, its very unfair for a realtionship to be ended like that. Stay strong, i hope it gets better.

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« Reply #5 on: August 19, 2012, 09:55:29 PM »
The crisis team have given me some good advice, given me some numbers for counselling , but im still really hurting, heartbroken, in despair, feel so alone, worthless and empty inside.

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« Reply #6 on: August 19, 2012, 09:56:55 PM »
That's totally understandable way to feel ((((hugs)))) for you. S x x x x
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« Reply #7 on: August 19, 2012, 10:02:02 PM »
It will take time nor is there any quick fixes  :( .  You will get support here though  %^%

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« Reply #8 on: August 19, 2012, 10:31:47 PM »
I dont know how im going to get over loosing my fiancee in such terrible circumstances, I worshiped the ground she walked on, I love her so much, id have done anything for her. The one thing in my life that I thought I had got right, was my relationship.. Now she is gone, just dont seem like there is any point to anything anymore. This is the worse feeling I have ever had un my life. I have been hurt in the past, but noway near as bad as this.

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« Reply #9 on: August 19, 2012, 11:15:09 PM »
Jules, I haven't got any great solutions, but I can confirm what Pip said. There is support offered here, and it can help the dark times. If you need to type more, there are people here who will read it and hear you. Best wishes, always. Michael