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Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« on: February 16, 2012, 12:58:45 AM »
Hey x

I've had depression on and off for about 8 years (it always seems to sneak up on you in a slighty different way -don't ya think?!) Anyway I'm pretty low at the min although do see some light. I'm unemployed and on benfits -I really wanna get into work but my CV is shocking due to starting and stopping lots of jobs. I've lied lots on it as that seems the only way I'll get a call back, but then the lies just add to my pressure, if I do get interview/ job offer. I've had so many jobs and been very unreliable in the past. Finding it so hard to get a grip on this and change it (I believe if I could get into a job and routine it would help loads).

I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has had similar experiences or has any advice???

Thanks, gem x

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #1 on: February 16, 2012, 06:22:36 AM »
Hi and welcome, dont think I can advise on this but I'm sure others can - I would say one thing though, if you get a job after telling lies your employer can sack you on the spot if you are found out :(

Have you thought of doing some sort of voluntary work while you are looking for a paying job?  It looks good to a prospective employer.

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #2 on: February 16, 2012, 07:44:44 AM »
Hello and welcome,

Sorry no experience with this, but agree with Zaf about volunteering work, not only would it look good on your cv but it would help you too.

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« Reply #3 on: February 16, 2012, 10:30:06 AM »
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« Reply #4 on: February 16, 2012, 01:02:34 PM »
Hi Gem

Welcome. I agree with the others, volunteering will always look good on your CV and give you a reason to get out.

I know what you mean about feeling better if you could get in a routine. I find that days with nothing to do and nowhere to be always make me feel worse &*(

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #5 on: February 16, 2012, 04:03:09 PM »
Hi Gem, and welcome (I'm new here too .. just signed up today  :))

Just something I thought of re. your cv .. it might be an idea to google for some advice on writing/re-writing your cv because nowadays people tend not to do them in the traditional way (mainly because people do have so many jobs now, as opposed to in the 'old days' where you only had a few jobs throughout your life).  So, firstly it's not that unusual nowadays to have had lots of jobs .. and secondly, the sort of cv you might want to try and aim for is one which gives a summary of your work experience and skill sets, but without immediately listing all the employers.  All that an employer wants to be able to do is see straightaway whether you can do the job, they don't want a great long list of dates, employers, etc, etc.  When they are getting so many applications every day, they want to see straightaway and clearly what you can do .. so have a good google around and see what advice is out there, to make your CV more simple, straightforward and eye-catching.

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #6 on: February 16, 2012, 04:04:29 PM »
Thank you for your replys  ;D

I've just been looking at voluntary work and yep think this is best option for now. This may ease the tension between me and my partner too as he is fed up of me 'moping around the house'. When I'm like this I don't want to leave the house or see anyone so going for a job is hard. He thinks I'm plain lazy and sometimes I think so too, but then I remember that depression is an illness that he just doesn't understand as he's one of the lucky ones, who haven't been through it. But then again I wonder...

I'm sat here on his comp -haven't even got dressed today although have eaten something and smoked alot of cigs. Just feel so tired. How do people feel like this but manage to go about their lives? Are they the stronger ones? Until a couple of days ago I was far enough into this to think this was just me and nothing would change but then it lifted enough for me to see some light again but still.

Anyway wanted to say this site is a definate help -yesterday the 'fun stuff' section gave me a smile and also the 'hobbies' bit -some of the photography on there is very inspiring.

I hold my hat to you people juggling your jobs, kids, lives with this depression crap! You're amazing

gem x

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #7 on: February 16, 2012, 04:06:07 PM »
Thank you Jae! I didn't realise CV's had changed -seriously your post has lifted me :) Am going to google CV help right now -thank you!!!! xxxx

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« Reply #8 on: February 16, 2012, 04:07:36 PM »
I was a bit against these new style ones, as I'm a bit 'old school' about some things .. but this does seem to be the way they do it now .. so probably best to go with the flow!

Also, depending on what type of work you have done in the past and the type of jobs you are applying for, it's not unusual to have two or maybe even three cv's .. each of them geared to the type of job you are applying for.  That isn't lying about anything you have done, but it is more about selling yourself and just gearing your application to that particular job so that you stand more chance of getting it.

Glad the info has gone some way to helping a bit .. good luck.

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #9 on: February 16, 2012, 11:32:44 PM »
anyone else feel like a social repellant? I am very unlikeable right now and I see it. Hate it.

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #10 on: February 17, 2012, 05:37:23 AM »
Its very common to feel like that when we're depressed, I hope your feelings improve soon xx
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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #11 on: February 18, 2012, 11:48:17 PM »
Sorry shouldn't have written that last one -had had a glass of wine and was definately feeling sorry for myself! Thank you for replies x x x

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #12 on: February 19, 2012, 12:05:01 AM »
hey and welcome, dont be sorry about any of your posts.

i had a friend who used to professionally write C.V.s  and she said that the charity work ive done in the past would help a lot, employers like people who are willing to put them self out when they have nothing to gain from it
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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #13 on: March 04, 2012, 06:55:16 PM »
Hi and welcome.

anyone else feel like a social repellant? I am very unlikeable right now and I see it. Hate it.

I never know if I don't like myself when I get depressed or if I get depressed at times I don't like myself....but I know what you mean.

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Re: Newbie saying hi and looking for work related advice
« Reply #14 on: March 12, 2012, 09:30:36 PM »
Hi
Having been in a similar position myself a few years ago I truely understand how you feel. My advice do some related voluntary work and sign up for anything going at the job centre.
Another tip I learnt from a poorly friend of mine is tick off every shop or business as you, i used to start of with a rough list of shops and then work my way through each one and then tick them and off and review as you go.
Then put each on in job diary.
keep try to succeed in life and stop thinking negatively.
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