I came across this forum a few days ago and have been having a good read. It's so weird reading things from other people which could be words out of my own mouth. I knew I wasn't the only person in the world with depression but it's spooky to hear how similar other people's symptoms are to my own. Spooky in a good way though, obviously
I wasn't going to do the whole 'life story' bit cos I don't like revealing stuff to people I don't know (or even people that I DO know!) but I've read some of you guys' posts and would feel a bit of a cop-out if I didn't have the balls to do the same. Sooooo.....
I'm 35 and have suffered from depression since god knows when. I had a crap childhood with a violent alcoholic father and an ostrich mother. When I was 13 I was raped by a friend of my father's. I told no-one about it, mostly cos I didn't think they'd care. Also, I was a very young 13 and naive and he managed to convince me that I had given him 'signals' that it was what I wanted, so I was scared that everyone would blame me and hate me for it. Anyhoo, I kept it to myself for a long time, hated myself and my body and had myself a secret struggle with anorexia. My mother at one point found a diary where I'd written about the rape and confronted me with it. I panicked, went into total denial mode and ostrich-mama decided to leave it there and do nothing about it. Cheers!
Life went on, I had a bit of a meltdown during my A-levels and left school and home to be a lifeguard (super career-move!), then got a flat and a proper job, met a nice bloke and settled down a bit. I had my lovely son at 22 and a heck of a depressive episode at 23. Finally spoke to my GP who gave a prescription for Prozac, which I tore up. I continued to struggle on my own with a baby and a partner who was spending more and more time in work to avoid me. On the outside I was a happy person, smiling in the park with my beautiful baby. Inside I was being crushed by the pressure and wanted to run away and never come back.
Somehow I kept going and raised my boy and found a job I loved supporting people with autism and challenging behaviour. I met an amazing man named David at work who I could talk to for hours about anything and everything and I started to open up to him. My son's dad was neither surprised nor particularly upset when I said I was leaving him.
David and I have been together for 6 years now. My son is 13 and a great boy. Two years ago we all moved to the other end of the country, mostly for peace and quiet. I no longer have any contact with my parents, which is a heck of a relief. But still, the black dog of depression hounds me (pardon the pun!). Recently it has been particularly bad, with serious thoughts of suicide. The plus side is that I now live in a small rural community with a fantastic GP who I can see at a moment's notice. He referred me to a psychiatrist who is lovely and I'm trying out some new meds. I also have a crisis nurse I can call on at any time and am about to get a CPN too. Way to go, NHS!
Anyways, thats me. Sorry if I bored anyone to death. I'll bugger off now and have a look-see if there's anywhere else I want to post. Please feel free to reply. I'd like to hope I can offer help on here but I'm not sure I can. What I can say is, I know what it's like and at least we're not alone...