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oblivion

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guilt
« on: January 27, 2011, 09:00:20 PM »
This forum having read the posts is such a lifeline to al sorts of conditions, i feel such a phoney, I have it all thinking of it,a Profession, Money, friends, social life, a wonderfully talented family,3 lush dogs, things to look forward to, wonderful surroundings, so what the heck is going on. Why do i hit the lows I do? why have I have always felt like there is something missing. I hate feeling lke this, there is no reason. I play and laugh and try to keep the black clouds at bay, but they come as sure as night follows day.

I cannot compare my self to self harmers or Bi Polar sufferers for instance; hence the guilt.

Why!!!

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Re: guilt
« Reply #1 on: January 27, 2011, 11:18:34 PM »
One thing to look at, is maybe there is something missing in your life that could be effecting you subconciously.
It could even be something as trivial as a hobby you used to really enjoy that you gave up doing.
Conciously you know this 'thing' is not there and don't think it matters that it's missing, but in your unconscious mind, it could possibly be the catalyst.
Be mindful in this situation and think clearly though, don't jump to any conclusions without thinking long and hard about it first.


Another could be something that's happened a long time ago, or maybe 5 years ago etc, that's eating you a little bit at a time, you don't really notice, because it eats you a tiny bit then disappears. Eventually though, it can break you down.
Again, think long and hard in this situation too.

The first situation can only be studied and cured by yourself.
Your Doc can point you in the right direction if it's the second.


The third situation, if you 'have it all' as you say but still get down in the dumps, look at maybe chemical imbalances in your body.
Depressions and anxieties aren't always caused by an outside influence or something that's recently happened to you.
Your Doc can do a blood test for you. Just explain the situation to him.


On a personal note:
You should NEVER feel guilty for getting down in the dumps, it happens, just think logically and clearly, analyse the situation and you'll pull through.
Hopefully I've helped a bit and given you some ideas for you to look at.

Good luck.
Everyone has a b@stard, whether it's an Inner Demon, or some self important @rse who looms over your every move.
The trick is to not let the b@stards grind you down. Shed a cleansing tear, then stand tall and be humbled in knowing that you are much better than they will ever be...
... and you will get stronger.

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Re: guilt
« Reply #2 on: January 28, 2011, 09:17:25 AM »
Hi Oblivion,

Please dont feel guilty this forum is here for people who feel they need help and need to speak to someone which is why you joined there are numerous different forms of depression and people have different coping mechanisms not all of them are right but they all exist.

You joined because you felt you needed help without medication but this is something worth looking at as SSF has mentioned it could be a chemical imbalance, or soeak to your GP about speaking to someone they usually have really good local counsellors if nothing else they can help you identify the problem.

Hope you fell better soon

Burley XX

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Re: guilt
« Reply #3 on: January 28, 2011, 09:25:11 AM »
Hi oblivion, as said your doctor is the one that can help find the root of your depression, you dont need to feel guilty at all we are all suffering from some form of depression like yourself.
Junior

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Re: guilt
« Reply #4 on: January 28, 2011, 09:42:41 AM »
Hi oblivion,

I have been in a similar situation to you - on the face of it "having it all" but still being depressed. As others have said, don't feel guilty, I'm sure you don't choose to feel like this, and it is not your fault. As SSF says, there are probably deeper reasons for your depression, even as far back as early childhood. Things that are embedded in your subconscious and leave you with feelings of inadequacy, guilt, depression or whatever. Unfortunately these things can be very difficult, and painful, to identify and come to terms with. But, for myself, I found that it was the only way to get lasting relief from the depression. Your doctor should be a good starting point to get help.

bel

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Re: guilt
« Reply #5 on: January 30, 2011, 04:34:36 PM »
thanks all, this means a lot,

I think my faith in human nature has been rekindled