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Aspirer

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Hey so depressed
« on: December 26, 2012, 11:07:36 PM »
Hi,

I'm a student currently studying at university. Over the past few years I have felt miserable at times, but it's never started to effect my life up until the last few weeks. I have just had no motivation to do anything, preferring to stay in bed all day. Even the simplest task such as washing a few dishes is becoming difficult because of the constant negative thoughts circling around in my head. I genuinely worry for my work if I don't clear my head soon. Just feel like crying every minute. I'm that bad I was unhappy on Christmas Day. The worst bit of it all is I don't know why I feel like I do. A lot of the time I feel down for no apparent reasons. It makes me feel selfish because on the face of things I've got a pretty independent life, and have done relatively well for myself, but I just can't help how I feel. 

I think a lack of sleep may be contributing to it, but I have had family problems recently which have made myself and my brother move out, so we're fending for ourselves. I also have a lot of free time as I'm not in uni that often and only work part time. The dissertation may be stressing me out as well because I want to do well for myself. I try to think positive but it just won't happen at the moment. Can you advise me on what I need to do? Do I need to see a doctor? Do I need to take medication?

It might be relevant to tell you that I have asperger's syndrome as well, which limits my ability to adhere to ordinary social codes of life. I have a small circle of friends, but not enough to feel happy, and I certainly don't get out enough in the day or have nights out. I feel more lonely than ever and don't know who to turn to.

Thanks for taking the time to read this.
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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #1 on: December 27, 2012, 12:11:16 AM »
It is quite common that people with aspergers (autism) suffer from mental health issues such as depression, unfortunately I don't know very much about it but I think that the safest way for you to fight your depression is to seek medical help due to you having aspergers, your doctor will understand it more and can guide you through medication, self help, therapy. Etc.


Also welcome to the forum all people here suffer or have suffered with depression and can understand from where you are coming from.
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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #2 on: December 27, 2012, 12:12:37 AM »
Hi,

I struggled with my depression at uni too. I found that keeping busy helped me at times and exercise. Maybe you could try going out for walks?

If you are worried then going to the doctors would be a good way forward, although that is hypocritical of me to say because I was far too petrified of going!

Try and think of all the things that make you happy and everything you have to be thankful for. I really could have been dead a few weeks ago and now I value my life more and I'm actually really glad I'm not! Don't let it get that bad.

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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #3 on: December 27, 2012, 12:18:55 PM »
Hi and welcome  *()

Have you seen your GP about your depression?

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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #4 on: December 27, 2012, 06:30:51 PM »
Hi Aspirer, welcome to the forum,
I see you are at uni, have you made contact with the people there who help people out?

when I was at uni, they had seperate rooms for people to sit exams in so not in with 100's of others, only about 6 - 10 people, also allow time out for breaks if you need them.
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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #5 on: December 27, 2012, 07:04:05 PM »
Hello and welcome  +-_.

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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #6 on: December 27, 2012, 08:42:08 PM »
Hi,

You sound like you have a lot on your plateau the moment, I hope that
You find some help and support here x

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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #7 on: December 27, 2012, 09:40:42 PM »
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Re: Hey so depressed
« Reply #8 on: December 28, 2012, 12:10:37 AM »
Hi guys. Thanks for your kind words of support and advice.

I think seeing a doctor is a really good idea. It is something I will do as I need to talk to someone other than my family about this because it gets too emotional otherwise, especially when my dad doesn't believe me and is telling me to "man up".

The uni idea is a good one so I may also have a word with my Personal Tutor about my suffering, and see what can be done there in terms of managing work load for assignments and exams. Exams are really stressful for me, even if I do well in them as I hate so many people in one room. It really does add to the nerves and it would be a lot better if it was only a small circle of students.
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