why has my friend ignored me??

[cat69]

Hey all.... Hope everyone is doing well..????

Not sure what to do right now.... Haven't spoke to my oldest friend for weeks... She knows what I've been going thru tho

I posted on facebook that I was closing my account and if anyone wanted me they knew where I was....  So this friend messaged me and asked if I was ok... I told her, I think I'm having a breakdown and think I need to go to hospital... Help... And she has not responded!!!!!

Feel so much worse now.... My last friend has abandoned me..... Spent the last few days crying non stop!

Sorry... Don't know what to make of it all...

[turquoise]

Maybe your friend just doesnt know what to say or do and that is why she is not responding, at the moment please get help from your doctor and concentrate  on getting help and when you are stronger you can decide whether you still want to be friends with this person.  I have felt at times my friends had all abondoned me but they were there in the background and helped me as much as they could, they were just a bit scared of upsetting me more than I was. 
Good luck and hope thing turn round for you soon.

T x

[Zaf]

Depression frightens some people, I think she may be struggling to know what to say or do

Z xx

[Sweetpea]

I agree with Zaf. Depression tends to frighten people as its so misunderstood. (((( hugs )))) for you. S x x x x

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[cat69]

Hi all thanx for replying  *)*

She is one of the lucky ones, that when she needs to relax she can switch off all the things worrying her!!

I do feel totally alone now tho, too scared to get in touch if I needed help...I just want to slip away from it all, and succumb to it...and i know I need someone to push me or help me get what i need, cos i can't do it alone...just don't have the strength.  I'll be dead by xmas if i get my way.

It sort of really pees me off cos when the last time i actually saw her (may i think) I was right at her side when she called me.  In family court....and helped with all the negotiating and got her what she wanted and her little one needed.
Feels as though, if I'm not the fun, crazy, outgoing Amy....people don't want to know...people only want to know happy people....

Was too scared to post on facebook... as people tend to moan about others depressing status updates (normally whinging about kids or their partners tho)... wanted to scream for help so much...but finally deleted my account.  Have no one to scream to now.

Can't put too much on my parents, my mum is very fragile, and I know it's hurting her seeing me like this, so don't want to say too much to her..and both her and my dad haven't got the knowledge or 'oomph' to take the bull by the horns, so to speak.

Need someone to come banging on my door, and take me by the arm, and say, "right, I'm gonna make sure you get what you need and i'm not leaving til you're getting the right help....take you wherever you need to be" ... right now, I know I need to be somewhere safe, i need to be in hospital, I need to rest.

But feel like i'd be wasting doctors time if went to a&e or called out of hours.....there's people dying out there...I shouldn't clog it up.

anyhoo...thank you all

Hope you are all well  $%$ *)*

[Sweetpea]

You would not be wasting their time. If you feel bad then you need help. The crisis teams and A & E are there for people that need it. Take care. S x x x x

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[plumb]

We all want to be saved but one of the first steps is admitting you need help and taking yourself to the drs and saying you need help. Unfortunately others cannot be relied on. Not because they are selfish or dont care. Often peoples own issues stand in the way and they may think "whats her problem? ive had to go through much worse, blah blah"   Its human nature. Ive had my support pulled from under my feet and it really hurt me but i know they have their own crap to deal with and it would be selfish and unrealistic to expect others to cast aside their problems for ours.
Sorry if thats mot what you want to hear but its true.
Just remember you always have people here to listen and share your thoughts but again, none of us will take you by the arm. You must take yourself. You will wish you did it ages ago and feel relieved for getting it off your chest.

[Pip]

Seeing a doctor is the priority.  People really don't know what to say or do when someone admits to suffering with depression.  I can't talk to my family as they will change the subject, my husband's family are the same as he's suffered for years.  They are very quick to talk about their own family's woes so we put up.  Fortunately we do have friends that we can talk to.