I dont know what to do

[mrmoody]

I have probably put this in the wrong place. Right....my ex and me have two children together. Havent seen them in 7 months now. She told me and my useless solicitor that she has changed their surnames which I didnt think she could legally do seeing as was there at the signing of both birth certificates. Now  also she emailed me out of the blue to tell me she is seeing someone else and its "very serious". I cant confirm this right now and my mum who has contact with my ex just said "if she emailed you and told you that then it must be true". I dont know the truth but I am wondering if my ex is doing all this so I give up and walk away. 4 weeks ago she was telling me she never wanted to be with a man again and that love was over-rated etc etc. I felt yesterday like walking away from it all. I would have to go via the courts and a new solicitor in the town sheives in to get access to my kids for just a couple of hours a week at a contact centre. I am completely lost. My ex doesnt seem to ge the hint that I wanted no contact with her since we split  up, she has to email me hurtful crap when she feels the need.

[Sweetpea]

I am sure she cannot change your childrens surnames legally without your permission, I am sure she is doing this just to hurt you.  Why can't she see that your children need their dad, and she is hurting them as well as you.  This kind of behaviour makes me mad, she should not be using the children in this way.  The children are innocent in this breakup.  My ex was not interested in seeing our boys when we split, I tried to keep up contact for them, but it was not them he wanted it was me.  Please do not give up on trying to get access, they are yours and you should see them.

Really feel for you.

S x

[Zaf]

I agree with shaz, do keep battling for access xxx

[mrmoody]

thanks for the encouragement. I will pursue it. I think she is reading my statements and posts on another forum and has said all of this to throw me. only the courts can decide now

[KateG]

Depending on how old your children are, you will probably have automatic parental responsibility for them, or if not (if they were born before the automatic rule came in) your solicitor has already applied for it for you. If you have PR, she cannot change their names without your consent.

Are you getting "legal aid" for your legal costs and are social services involved? If you're getting help with your costs you should definitely keep fighting. If social services are involved then getting them to support your contact with your children will help

[Zaf]

Mr moody there is a private space on here if you would like access, its not open to the general public

Z xx