Depression/carer perspectives please?!?!?!

[Zaf]

I think when we are depressed firstly we have to acknowledge that we are suffering from the horrible illness then tackle it, often we need to do it ourselves and not be told by well meaning people that have no idea what its like what we should do to feel better.

Here we may be given advice or told we are something we dont believe we are but at least its coming from people that understand our illness and how we feel and I for one have to take notice if people in here tell me something about me that I really dont feel is true

Hope that makes sense?!

[smirfy21]

when I first really began to notice my depression I really was a horrible person but it was like I was somebody else doing all these awful things. I tried to hide my depression from everyone for almost three years and along the way I lost almost everyone I cared about and the only people I had left were my family because they had to be there however I even nearly lost them at one point and that was really hard.

I am similar to Zaf in the fact that if somebody that has never experianced depression in their life comes along and starts blabbering on and giving me advice about my depression then I tend not to take much notice and it makes me quite mad as they don't understand that their is no quick fix. the only people that I feel I can take advice off are my family because they know me so well, my psychiatrist and people that have been through or are going through depression which is why this forum helps.

smirfy

[Lol]

Guys, my ex said that she felt 'inferior' to me because I was such a strong person. I don't think I AM a strong person, it's just that if there is a problem, I'll step up! (in the absence of anyone else stepping up - ie my partner), so if I WAS a strong person, it's because I had to be because she wasn't helping, so SHE made me that way?!?!?!!?!?!?!??!

How do you interpret that???

[Zaf]

Lol, you are a strong person but I cant imagine why your ex should think or say she feels inferior; I am convinced she is still either depressed and/or confused about her feelings.

Whatever the reason its desperately hard on you