Does anyone understand!

[Lol]

Sometimes, if we are not expecting depression to strike or looking out for it, it is not untill after the stressful event has started to be relieved that we realise we have spiralled out of control. This can be really dangerous becuase who knows at what point we come to this realisation.

[Zaf]

Thats very true lol, I can usually recognise the symptoms creeping up but occasionally (like this time) either I dont recognise them quickly enough or something triggers an episode so quickly that I dont have time to realising whats happening.

Jackie, this time I realised just how much I do for other people at the expense of my own health, I've been really fortunate to have a brilliant counsellor who has helped me incredibly well to not only understand what I do and how to try to prevent it happening so often, of course we cant avoid horrible life events but I do believe the counselling I've had will help me to stick to my limits and not try to do everything for everyone.

[caring angel]

Your right Lol sometimes you will try to struggle on coping and before you know it weeks turn in to months until you reach a state where you are really at your lowest point and the danger is if you get that low could you get out of the situation your in.  I'm just glad that I went to get help because I don't know what situation I would be in if things had continued the way they were going.

[caring angel]

Zaf, I do the same thing and I tend to get involved in other peoples problems and I tend to help others at the expense of my own health.  I feel that if I don't help them that I am letting them down and failing them.  I also don't want them to think badly of me by not supporting them.  But this becomes a vicious circle because I end up taking on everyones problems and I become consumed by it all until eventually I become mentally exhausted and I carry a lot of guilt.

[Zaf]

Thats exactly what brought on my recent mini breakdown jackie, I think its a very common cause of depression, either on its own or in combination with other stressful life events

[cornish]

hey and welcome, i hope this place is as much help for you as it is to me

[caring angel]

Hello Cornish, thanx for the welcome, it does seem a good place to talk to people who are going through what your going through.  Hope to speak to you some time.  Take care  :)