What should I do??

[Pina911]

OK so Im feeling pretty down at the moment and dont know what to do.

Keep thinking I should get out of my current relationship but not sure if thats all part of the illness???

I keep thinking of a previous partner that still keeps in touch and cant get her out of my mind recently.

I am also going from high to low pretty quickly at the moment.

[Munchroom]

Hi Pina... its tricky, I had a similar thing with my fiancee when I was first depressed. I loved him, but I was questioning whether I should be with him - every aspect of our relationship I scrutinised. It was the illness, for me. We came through it and we're now closer than we've ever been.

Personally, from my experiences, I would say don't make any hasty desicions. I almost left him and moved to London with a friend.... that would have been the biggest mistake of my life.

Are you seeing a doctor regularly?

x

[Zaf]

Munchroom is right, its not a good idea to make big decisions when depressed

Z xx

[Stay positive]

HI

I have also been in your situation and be careful not to do anything to quickly - as it is part of the illness, I agree with the other comments posted here.  Our illness is always looking for better, when it could be looking right at you.

Relationships are hard for both parties - and more so in our situations.

You need to ask yourself:
Does your partner love you for who you are - and you love them?
Do you have fun together?
Does your partner support you with depression? - this is a very big part of someone that suffers with depression - getting support from loved ones.

I was in the same boat as you but I left the relationship and it was the biggest mistake I made and still regret it today, but pride and being stubborn got in the way and I wish it hadn't.  I had a great partner who loved me and supported me through my low days and would have done anything for me, and now I'm on my own.  Be careful that you don't end up lonely!!  It's not a nice place to be.

'Ex' is an ex for a reason - it didn't work the first time, so the chances of it working again are slim!!  Be careful not to ruin what you already have!  And avoid contact with the ex - as they could be playing games with you.

With depression our minds try to make us believe things and can lead us down the wrong path. Be strong and do the right thing, but ensure it's not because you are feeling low and you make the wrong decision. 

[Pina911]

Thanks for the support.

You are all correct. making a hasty decision now would be the wrong thing to do.

She is very supportive and probably more than I deserve to be honest.

[Stay positive]

It's a pleasure, glad we could help before you did anything to hasty!! $%$

From your last comment - it seems you know you are in the right place!

Relationships aren't easy and scary at times, but to have someone by your side who loves you and supports you, couldn't get better than that. And she obviously wants to support you or she wouldn't be there - ever asked yourself that?   And if you show her trust, love and respect her and she accepts you for who YOU are  - I'm sure she is exactly what you deserve. We all deserve the best - I still wish I had the one who supported me! 

[I.B Igor]

All I can add is  *()       hang on in there, hope you feel a bit more positive soon.