coping with other people

[zeemiller]

people seem to irritate far too much and sometimes is hard to find the energy to even talk to people i know etc it all seems hard work listening and talking as realise how much of ppls converstations are made up of gossip or talking about other ppl etc. when out and say surrounded by strangers its the noise such as baby crying, shouting or dog barking, and ppl getting in the way either in shops or on transport.
then say when at home or visiting a friend its hard work when say thet person is moaning about their problems or notice ppl gossip and talk about nothing just to make a conversation its all hard work with people and a constant battle sometimes its easier to cope when not fully depressed but sometimes the above sets me off into depression or makes depression worse, dont like being lonely but sometimes its easier to face that than other people.

[Ezel]

Yes I know exactly what you mean.

[Ducky]

It's strange but I am just the opposite, though I will rarely meet more than one on one due to my social phobia. All my friends - both online and "real" ones - fully understand me, depression in general and mine in particular (and all my other foibles) and are prepared to talk, listen and email. Maybe I am just lucky in this or, more likely, have chosen the friends I stay in contact with carefully.

Ironically, the worst offenders are family. I only have two sisters left, a nephew and an aunt really - and I have no contact with them whatsoever as they all fall into the category of being utterly selfish b*stards. Strangely enough, my late son also had the same problem with his two brothers, both were complete w*nkers (pardon my language but whenever families/relatives are mentioned, I tend to get very angry and disgusted with how completely selfish blood relatives can be).

Rant over.

Ducky "£"

[Ezel]

My online friends are the ones who understand because most have had some degree of depression.  My family are a nighmare as for many years they thought I was attention seeking / feeling sorry for myself so would tell me to pull myself together.  I even had a doctor tell me to pull myself together after I told him I was depressed.  He thought I was just feeling sorry for myself as I had broken my right wrist and I am right handed _-+ .  In 2005 I told my parents I was depressed and on anti depressants and they just said they hoped I felt better soon as if I had a cold.  It was never discussed again and I only let my sister know how serious my depression is in2011.  Long story but we didn't have contact for 12 years due to an argument so didn't talk again until she rang me to let me know my mum had died.  I knew my mum was seriously ill as I had contact with my dad.  It was my sister's birthday in December so it was a good excuse to send a letter with a card but she hasn't utter a word to me about it. 

[Ducky]

I can relate to the doctor telling you to pull yourself together - mind you, someone like that should be struck off or reported. After I lost my son, my GP told me that "I enjoyed wallowing in grief" and also asked if I had considered a lodger or a pet as a replacement. Needless to say, I no longer use his services at the practice.

[plumb]

unreal that a dr of all people should say or suggest the possibility of someone snapping out of depression. we can help ourselves by avoiding situations but the dr is there for help not judgement.