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General => Welcome our 'NEW MEMBERS'!! => Topic started by: kit on November 20, 2011, 07:35:06 PM

Title: hi
Post by: kit on November 20, 2011, 07:35:06 PM
Hi there. Ive only just been diagnosed with depression which was a complete shock to myself...... im normally the life and sole of everything so it does seem strange when your get up and go has got up and left the building.
Not sure if being here will help me but at least im around people who will understand how im feeling.
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Post by: Zaf on November 20, 2011, 07:37:36 PM
Hi kit, you'll find everyone here really friendly and helpful :)
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Post by: Lol on November 20, 2011, 07:39:53 PM
Hi Kit and welcome to the forum. It is difficult to find that your mojo has altered and talking to people who understand what that feels like is very helpful. If there are any particular aspects of your feelings you would like to talk about please feel free and we will help as much as we can.
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Post by: kit on November 20, 2011, 07:43:37 PM
thanks. At the moment the feelings are just all mixed up. dont seem to want to go or do anything. ive been on ad for a week so am waiting for them to kick in. am due to see a councilor at some stage to.
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Post by: Zaf on November 20, 2011, 07:48:16 PM
Not wanting to do things is very common kit :(
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Post by: Lol on November 20, 2011, 07:53:29 PM
These symptoms are quite universal and I think it is sensible for you to recognise the need for counselling and that ADs take time to kick in. Be kind to yourself whilst you are waiting to feel better and don't allow yourself to be forced into situations you don't feel ready for.
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Post by: kit on November 20, 2011, 08:00:43 PM
mmmm being kind to myself is something new to me. People in my life are telling me to think of myself instead of others but how do you change that when you have lived that way for years... oh i no i need help and am taking one day at a time.
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Post by: Zaf on November 20, 2011, 08:03:36 PM
Its really difficult to change the habits of a lifetime and even more difficult not to feel guilty about needing to rest but its essential to try in order to recover
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Post by: kit on November 20, 2011, 08:13:22 PM
i have tried the rest this weekend but doing nothing has made my brain go into over drive. Did manage to go to a friends and explain why i ve been ignoring her for the last 3 weeks.... Shes invited me back to hide out at hers for the weekend just to get away. Im thinking this is a good idea.
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Post by: Zaf on November 20, 2011, 08:18:42 PM
It seems a great idea, You're lucky to have a friend who understands :)
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Post by: kit on November 20, 2011, 08:27:14 PM
i do have some great friends but none of them trully knew what was happening. the old "yes im great" passed my lips too many times. But now im admitting no im not great im actually feeling pants with it all....
thanks for listening tonight naf
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Post by: Zaf on November 20, 2011, 08:30:12 PM
Most of us hide it, the only reason one of my friends knew was I had my breakdown while she was there.

We all understand what its like so if you have any worries or questions there will almost certainly be someone that can help xx
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Post by: isserley on November 20, 2011, 09:24:10 PM
Welcome to the forum!  ;)
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Post by: danbob on November 20, 2011, 10:52:28 PM
hi and welcome :) hope you love it here :)
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Post by: SleepyCat on November 21, 2011, 07:13:31 PM
Hi Kit, I am new here too, it seems like a really friendly place. I love your puma!

It sounds like you have a really good friend there. I would be tempted to take up her invitation next weekend.
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Post by: lou on November 21, 2011, 07:21:17 PM
Hi i'm new to this too, try and be kind to yourself and take one day at a time
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Post by: kit on November 21, 2011, 09:52:20 PM
thanks all this does seem to be a very friendly place. I made it through the day at work but only as i didnt have to work with anyone. im finding it easier to cope if i dont have many around me.
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Post by: lou on November 22, 2011, 07:39:34 PM
at least you made it through the day! i find it easier if people at work don't ask me how i am or anything to do with me or my life. Would rather listen, i think people would get fed up with me or think i'm crazy or run away if i told them how i really feel. Tomorrows another day ;D
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Post by: kit on November 27, 2011, 09:36:59 PM
hi all. went away for the weekend as planned. dont think it helped much though. didnt sleep much as my mind just will not shut up.
wish i new how i am surposed to feel at this moment "£"
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Post by: Glen53 on November 28, 2011, 07:49:52 AM
I know its frustrating, but time really is a key factor.

Im fairly new to this place too and I already feel so welcome here. Writing down my feelings and trying to help with others seems to pick me up a little. I too feel that my mind keeps working away with questions and irrational fears all the time, mostly topped off with "when will I feel better?" and "why do i feel so useless right now?" I keep reminding myself of some of the good advice I have recieved on here: Take time to rest, take things slowly and try to focus on the good things in your life.

I hope you are soon feeling better, but when you are feeling a little low we will be here to talk if you need to.  :)
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Post by: lou on November 28, 2011, 07:03:54 PM
hi kit do you have any hobbies or interests? that might help you feel better. i recently took up horse riding something i thought i would never do, never had an interest in either. although it isn't the be all and end all in terms of feeling better i have enjoyed it and it has given me something else in my life other than just work, work and work, in between that housework! i dont get overly excited or enthused about going but i do enjoy it and have really liked being around the horses, grooming them etc...
also i have just brought an acoustic guitar and am teaching myself how to play - i used to play an instrument at school and thought i might like trying to play an instrument again. will do/try anything to help myself get better so fingers crossed! :)