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General => The Lounge => Topic started by: Amanda_George on February 08, 2019, 10:27:15 AM
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I've been having a chatette with our newest member, lisamarretta, over on the intro board about small things we want to improve about ourselves. I'm brushing my teeth and she's brushing her hair.
I've just brushed my teeth so it's your turn now, Lisa! :happy0064:
I definitely recommend getting your vitamin levels checked. Definitely B12 and D but if you can get your GP to test *all* your vitamin levels then you'll know if you need to supplement anything else too. Even if you're not deficient in vitamin B12, maybe invest in a bottle of pills of it anyway? Amazon do a B12 spray that works wonders when I'm feeling particularly low or need more energy. Get your levels checked before you start taking the supplements though otherwise you'll get the wrong result and not get the help you need to increase any levels that are low.
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Hi!
I have just brushed my hair 😀 can’t face getting dressed or anything though. Baby steps.. right ok I will ask my GP when I next see him.
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We both deserve a treat then... have you got a favourite book or magasine or website or anything like that you can read a page/chapter of?
It's totally OK to not being able to face getting dressed... I sleep in my clothes so that I can just put our senior pup's lead on and take her for our daily stroll every morning - it's one less thing to motivate myself to do!
I hope your doc will give you the vitamin blood test - it's so worth it to feel even slightly better than you do right now!
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Yes I have 3 books in the go ha! Find concentrating difficult. I will commit myself to read a chapter of one tonight how are you treating yourself?
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It doesn't have to be a whole chapter... it's a reward not a chore after all :biggrin: How about music? Maybe listen to your favourite album or song or watch your favourite video or telly programme or play your favourite game or something like that? It needs to be something you genuinely want to do as a reward for brushing your hair instead of a chore that you feel you have to commit to.
:hug: if you want it?
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I’m watching James Bond 😍 with my cats!! 🤣 hopefully stay awake for it. I do love bond. How are you today? Why’s your reward for brushing your teeth? Hug right back at you x
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That's my teeth brushed again. My reward is posting to my blog about it lol It's routine now though... I wake up, come down here, walk the pup then brush my teeth and take my supplements, which I haven't done yet! Oops! Gonna do it now though :biggrin:
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Well done. I’m having a terrible day today 😒 I feel physically ill I can’t face the mirror or the brush 😖😖
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Anything you want to talk about? I'm here all day if you need a friendly pair of eyes?
Edit - there's a board just for members if you only want members to read it?
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I’ll be alright thank you. Xx
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It's what the forum is here for. I know that right now this is all new to you and you may not trust any of us yet, but we've all been there and do genuinely understand what you're going through.
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I’m just really low, hate things feeling out of my control. The thing I went through in May is now in the hands of the police I have days where I’m so proud of myself for going through with everything but then other days I get really anxious about others knowing. I’m going to get out of bed though and get a shower 💪
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So proud of you for going to the police about it... I didn't when it happened to me so I know just how much courage it took to report it. Stay in bed if that's what you need to do - it's totally OK to give your head a day off occasionally and it sounds like you need that day off right now. Look after yourself and know that I understand what you're going through... I may not always have the right words to say, but I will listen whenever you need me to.
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It’s just doing my head in... I think that is why my bullimia has got so bad.. I literally can’t control anything 😖 I hate it. I hate the way I’m just left too like my initial statement the police lady stayed with me for 2 hours and I was sick twice, I get counselling once a fortnight and that’s it. I haven’t found the courage to tell my family so I can’t talk to anyone about it. Just gets me down so badly... my nightmares are so bad I bite my arms and I’ve kicked over a chest of drawers thrashing in my sleep. I don’t ever let anyone hug me or see me cry... that night I was upset about work and I let him (someone I’ve known like half my life) hug me and I also allowed myself to get upset in front of him and bam... I hate myself for it. Hate myself for letting my guard down, hate myself for not fighting harder... just f***ing hate hate hate 😒 even before that I witnessed abuse at work (I look after disabled people) and she got away with it a senior member of staff might I add! That’s why I was upset I’d just been told she was coming back as it was my word against hers and the gentleman in question couldn’t remember 😡 I love my job... I just can’t go back now not now they let her get away with that, there’s people there with brain injuries they wouldn’t be able to remember if she did anything. Just in such a dark place and I’ve lost my partner of 13 years in all of this so I’m dealing with that too and moving out 😡 sorry I kinda got on a roll there 🙄
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Maybe start a blog to let it all out in? Set up a new identity for the blog and use that to talk about what happened between counselling sessions? Or a website, again with a totally new identity to protect your privacy that you can use to be let it all out? That's what I did after I moved and got an internet connection at home... just get it all out of your head and onto the screen whenever you need to.
Also, maybe ask for more frequent counselling sessions while you're feeling so bad?
It took literally years to let anyone hug me and I was with my partner for 5 years before I let him see me cry and even then it was purely by accident.
Same with work too. I was a temp at the time and lost the job after I told the temping agency what was happening. Keep talking and I'll keep reading 'cos it sounds like a lot of what you've been through is what I've been through too, except losing my partner - I'm still with mine but right now you need to look after you and get yourself out of the rough place and deal with everything you went through.
Treat yourself kindly, Lisa, you deserve it.
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I have been keeping sort of a diary on my laptop, I thought about starting a blog but to tell you the truth I’m not very tech savvy... wouldn’t know where to start! Thank you for listening to me.. it means so much xx
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If you go to my navigation page (the globe icon under my profile picture) you can see 2 of my blogs from there and all you need to sign up is an email address. Just sign up for a new account with your email address and a password, verify your email address and away you go. Free and easy to use. I'm about to head to bed for an early night but I can write a tutorial for you tomorrow if you want me to? :happy0158:
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Oh thank you that would be great. Sleep well I’m going to bed too x
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Hi Lisa, I have added you to the Karma Group so now you will see extra boards so you can rant and rave as much as you want in privacy :happy0158: which Amanda was referring too ;D
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Had a solid 6 hours sleep last night! Up and showered, hair done... I feel good today. I won’t take it for granted but it’s nice to feel like me for however long it’s going to last! Thank you Pip 😊 I’ll take a look xx
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That's awesome, Lisa! I'm so proud of you! I'm gonna finish reading the forum then make a start on the tutorial for you. Hopefully it'll be ready for you to have a look at after lunch... no guarantees but hopefully by the end of the day I'll get the URL to Pip to check then I'll post it here as soon as I see that she's approved it :happy0158:
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Just finished writing the tutorial and sent it to Pip to check, so assuming she approves I'll send it through here as soon as I see it :happy0158:
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Pip approved the blog tutorial overnight so here it is: http://amandageorge.me.uk/startingablogtutorial.htm (http://amandageorge.me.uk/startingablogtutorial.htm)
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Thank you Amanda. Sorry I’ve not been here for a few days having a really tough time right now. I will have a look when I’m feeling a little better x
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Talk to us, Lisa! It's what we're all here for, to support each other!
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I know and I will. Just got some trust issues to get hold of etc I’ll be back soon 😘
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You are in good company as I've had trust issues since I was 19 and I'm 57 now. It's so hard at times to get through the days when your mood is low because of trust issues. I do voluntary work and am very good at hiding how I am feeling so whenever I trust someone enough to admit I suffer with depression they are usually surprised even shocked as I come across as a happy person.
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I know and I will. Just got some trust issues to get hold of etc I’ll be back soon 😘
Totally understand. We're here for you whenever you feel ready and able to talk about what you're going through :hug: <-- if you want it?
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Are you still brushing your hair, Lisa? I've just brushed my teeth and it reminded me about our reminder service to each other!
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Just brushed me teeth again... what about you Lisa? Are you still brushing your hair too? It's totally OK if you don't feel up to it right now though :cathug:
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Hey...
sorry not been on much. Just living through hell right now. 😬
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I'll listen if it'd help to talk? Can't promise I'll be the most gentle person in the world, but I will read and care about every word you type out. Maybe start a new thread though so that other members are more likely to see it?
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Yes, please try and post regularly even if you don't write much, then we'll know you're getting through your days :hug: