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Depression Related Forums => Depression Central => Topic started by: Jess on September 14, 2010, 09:00:20 PM
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Yes I'm back again, did you miss me :)
Well as you may have already read i have been contemplating telling somebody about my depression, but have i. No.
As much as i have tried to i cannot bring myself to explain the way i feel, in a stupid way i am embaressed of my emotions, im worried to get help. i know it will aid me in more ways then imaginable but sheer panic inundates me when the thought appears in my mind.
i still think of suicide on a daily basis, on a worrying note i have noticed cut marks across my best friends wrist, i know she is depressed but i don't know how i can help her. I know her cuts are cries for help as they are horizontal, she is aware of the method of wrist slitting for suicide.
Any words of advice for me or my friend are much obliged
I'm in dire need of solace before i do something stupid....
Many thanks, Jess xx
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Hey Jess, how are you doing?
I'm glad to hear that you're still considering talking to someone about how you're feeling -- this is one of the biggest decisions you can make.
I'm sad to hear about your friend's depression, but maybe you can help each other? You can see the signs, and if she is your best friend maybe you could initially talk to each other about how you are feeling?
If you can get her talking about what is troubling her and vice versa, maybe that would make it a little easier if you decide to tell your parents or your doctor.
I often feel really hypocritical when I'm on here because I so often give "advice" but suffer from exactly the same problems as everyone else, but I do think that if you and your friend are in similar situations it is a really good opportunity for you to use use your experiences to help each other.
Please keep in touch on here and let us know how you are both doing x
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Hi Jess,
I cant really give any advise on you suicidal thoughts as im the same, sorry.
Have you tried getting your friend to talk to you or someone else?
I dont know from personal experiance but i am told cutting your wrists will hurt and not just the cut the organs slowing down and stopping too, it could take hours, if she does talk to you you could tell her how much pain she would be in and how long it could take, it might scare her out of doing it.
I hope that helps.
Junior
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Oh Jess, I wish I could say something to make you feel better. Just try to hang in there. This too shall pass (comforts me).
It might help to talk to your friend, like Michibelle said, you can support each other.
Telling people is hard, there's no two ways about that, but in my experience, mostly they react better than you might think.
The more people you have to talk to, the better.
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Hi jess
Can I offer some advice? A lot of people (me included) have a problem talking about depression, trust me this seems 'normal' for the condition. The first time I really talked about it was with my doc, but if you don't have that kind of relationship with your doc, try the Samaritans. A lot of people say that they are no use as they cannot offer advice etc, but it may be a way for you to conquer this fear of talking about it to another person, then it may lead to you being able to talk to your doc...? The phone call is free, and they don't have any agenda.. just an idea, hope it helps.
Tal
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Thank you for your replies, I think its just fear that is stopping me from explaining my emotions, i will continue trying though. I have tried talking to my friend in privat but she refuses to open up, i'm not going to pressure her as that would be extremally unfair of me. Many thanks, Jess x :)
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Hi jess, give it time and show your friend you are there for them they will talk at some point im sure because like you said it wasnt dont to end her life as she knows how to do that.
Hope that helps.
Junior