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General => Welcome our 'NEW MEMBERS'!! => Topic started by: Indi on March 16, 2013, 12:03:48 AM
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I'm new on this site, and it's the first time I've been on a depression forum talking to strangers about my problems. But I've recently been ditched by the friend who was my only remaining support through the bad times, and now I'm going through a nasty down-spell and feel I have no one to turn to. Anyone else feeling as lonely and in need of a friend right now?
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Depression can be a very lonely place to be. I'm pleased you found the Forum and hope you can find your way around. Reading posts and writing your own can be an excellent source of support.
Welcome to the Forum 0158
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Welcome, Indi
I've only been here a couple of weeks too. Quite often I feel lonely and in need of a friend too. I don't have many at the moment.
Hope you start to come through the low spell soon.
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sIg_hi
It is tough not having anybody to turn to but the members here will give you support.
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Hi Indi, welcome to the forums, hope you find them helpfull.
here is like one big community where we try to help each other
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Hello and welcome to thee forum, we all understand what depression does to us, we all support each other here .
S x x x x
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Thanks everyone. This friend was hugely important to me, so it's left a major gap in my life... Got any tips to try and cope? Cos I'm all out
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I think it's understandable. In some ways it will feel a bit like a bereavement.
I think just trying to find other things to do will help. Posting on here can be a good distraction.
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Loosing a good friend must be difficult, especially if their friendship has been particularly supportive. Is there no chance of a reconciliation?
The Forum is a great place for sharing . Everyone has similar experiences and we all try to support one another as best we can. Have a trawl through the main menu, which can be reached via the 'Home' button at the top of the page
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Welcome.
I hope you find the forums as useful as I have. :bye:
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I've tried getting in touch with him, but no luck. So unless he decides to start talking to me again, it's looking like a lost cause. But thanks for the replies everyone
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Hi Indi, it is worse when ditched by the one person we thought we could depend on for support, can you say why he left you or is it too painfull to mention?
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Honestly, I have no idea why he's decided to ignore me all of a sudden. He got together with someone two months ago, so any time he's been around in the area it's to see her, so we haven't seen each other since then. But we were still talking til about two weeks ago, now he won't reply to anything, even when I've asked him for help. He won't talk to me to tell me why... So far I've only tried texting, so I'm going to leave it for a few days then will try calling. If that fails, there's nothing more I can do ???
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Perhaps its the new person he is with putting pressure on him, just a thought. But very hard for you :hug:.
S x x x x
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I've considered that, and there is a bit of coincidence going on here, so she's probably got something to do with it. But I work with her, and she seems like she's fine around me, so if that is the case she's doing a very good job of hiding it
And thanks again for all the replies, it's surprisingly helpful to talk it through
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Thinking about it more today, he's probably just had enough of having a friend who's depressed. Which is perfectly understandable, it's got to be a huge responsibility, which I don't think many people would want, trying to help someone through it all, especially if they're the only person who's doing so. The whole thing is probably for the best as well, as I was far to dependent on him for any happiness I had.
I'm just wondering whether I should still call him in a few days, not to try and fix things, but just to thank him for everything good he did for me, and to say goodbye.
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If it was me, I would call him if only to clear the air. Its not nice leaving things festering. I would thank him for all his support and say I understand and could we still stay friends.
You have support here Indi.
S x x x x
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I imagine, as depressives, we are very difficult to understand and, at times, get along with. Sometimes our inner pain can make us too inward looking and that can appear selfish.
I think you should call your friend. If he means so much, why would you not try to patch things up. If you don't at least try, he might think you don't care.
I hope you manage to sort things out
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Eeek. Was planning on calling him this evening, but now I can't work up the courage at all... I'm not even sure he wouldn't just cut me off or not pick up, so I'd have to leave it as a message. And he might not even listen to that, AAARGH!! :bash:
Plus I've had a good day so far, and I know finally saying goodbye to him will be heartbreaking, so would ruin it. Though I know I should do it as soon as I can and get it over with - rip the bandaid off etc...
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You cannot know for sure how your friend will react. Hopefully you will mean half as much as he means to you, so there will be no problem beyond the usual apologies etc.
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If he is a good friend he will accept your apology with good grace. Good luck 0158
S x x x x
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Hi Indi, i would go with what has been said by others here, and call him.
find out where you stand,