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Title: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: iggyelvis on February 10, 2013, 07:19:44 PM

they do this time and again. i go because they want help then make me feel crap. i am in my 40's this shd not happn.

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Catbrian on February 10, 2013, 10:23:54 PM

Yes, I have parents like that.

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: iggyelvis on February 10, 2013, 11:46:46 PM

wellablet for the first tme n along why  remembered why i used to t

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: iggyelvis on February 11, 2013, 03:58:13 PM

i hope i remember to be nice to people when i need stuff done for me.

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Sweetpea on February 11, 2013, 07:12:43 PM

I am sure you will as you know how it feels when people are not.

S x x x x

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: stewart on February 11, 2013, 10:38:55 PM

it always amazes me when some people are so grumpy or even rude when given help,
family members are the last people you should expect it from

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Catbrian on February 12, 2013, 06:25:50 PM

I love to help people, but so often, some start to take it for granted and begin to expect too much.  I have recently found that, when I am in need, others are not helpful

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Post by: Leo on February 14, 2013, 12:44:52 AM

Ditton that Cat.

I've virtually cut my family out of my life.

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Catbrian on February 14, 2013, 08:04:32 AM

I know you have Leo... sometimes that's necessary for the sake of our MH.  Hopefully, through time, things will pan out

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: iggyelvis on February 23, 2013, 03:57:42 PM

My mum kept ringing until i said an exact time.

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Pip on February 23, 2013, 05:02:39 PM

Just been reading through this thread.  My mum and I had a toxic relationship and she knew what buttons to push with me to make me feel bad about myself.  In 1999 I fell out with all my family because I was so fed of being the 'black sheep' despite the accusations being completely untrue.  The main one being I lied about everything even though I could prove I was telling the truth.  My dad would stick up for me when he could.  I eventually got back in touch with my parents in 2001 but it was by letter mostly as I couldn't bear anymore contact than that.  The first time I talked with my sister was 12 years later when my mum died.  Our relationship isn't great but she knows I wont back down now.  I talk to my dad more regularly now. 

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Catbrian on February 23, 2013, 06:07:59 PM

The relationship with my parents is very similar.  I always keep them at arms length and, yes, Mum still knows what buttons to press.  It's good to know other people share similar experiences

Title: Re: went to see parents to help them left feeling so low.
Post by: Sweetpea on February 23, 2013, 06:56:17 PM

Reading this thread makes me realise how lucky I am. My mum is so understanding and supportive.

S x x x x

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