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Depression Related Forums => Depression Central => Topic started by: Simon123 on November 25, 2012, 11:40:28 AM
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Hi Everyone, I am hoping someone on here might have some sound advice regarding depression and work.
I am on 10mg Prozac at the moment and have just recieved a Final Written Warning at work for saying something about a colleague that I shouldn't, in a way that I shouldn't but they accept I was forced into a very frustrating situation as the victim is a regular pain in the backside. I am a line manager.
I suffer from S.A.D so I get depressed around September every year and recover around April/May but also get minor relapses throughout the year which are mostly related to stress and increased workload. I have had my current job for 6 years. I have suffered from depression for around 20 years (since 14 years old) but only started proper treatment 4 or 5 years ago. I have done jobs with more responsability (Manager) in the past without the help of Anti-Depressants.
Whilst giving me my Final warning, they suggested I needed to be more consistent. This is something I am going to struggle with as I am one person in the summer and another in the winter. I have spent the last 4 years experimenting with AD's and dosages to get the 2 as close together as I can but there will always be a difference even if it is that I am more pro-active and less withdrawn. I struggle myself to know who I am at times so how the hell are the people at work going to keep up?
I haven't gone sick from work once in the whole 6 years I have been there. Should I come clean with them and tell them about my depression, the medication and the likelyhood that I will never be truly consistent throughout the year? or should I keep quiet, keep my head down and feel like I have a target on my back?
Thanks and I hope you are all well today :-)
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I don't trust them. I therefore think they would try to say I am incapable of the job and demote me.
Thanks for your help Nocaph :-)
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I also don't want it to affect my future with other companies. If they don't know then they cant hold it against me.
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i would agree with you to an extent.
I was the exact same as yourself debating with my self to tell my work about my depression etc , i eventually told them, did help in some ways that I was more flexible I could get days off now rather than making up excuses.
But since then something has happened at work and I have been suspended for around a month now and it is always in the back of my mind that they could use my depression as a weapon against me and use it as an excuse if something bad happens.
I will never tell any future work employers about my depression before hand because lets be honest who would you rather hire someone with depression or someone who does not ??
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Ok so you're kind of where I am at then. Have you been suspended due to your depression? would you tell them now if they didn't know before?
I don't know why you are suspended but a month is a long time for an investigation on their part so the depression, or the fact they know about it, may be keeping you in a job.
Thanks and sorry to hear about your situation.
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I have been suspended due to a false allegation , but I am worried that since I have told them about my depression it can count against me.
I wouldn't tell them if they did not know before because some things have came to light about the management etc since then.
But it ultimately comes down to trust.
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Hi, it is a difficult situation I have just been off and did not want depression on fit note so my dr put anxiety. This was true as this led to my depression, I sometimes wish I could be honest and tell them about the AD's I am on but you will be judged depite what anyone says.
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Do you think they are owed an explanation of why I change throughout the year so they can try and understand me or should I just hope they can be cool enough to put up with the variations?
Ultimately, If they aren't cool with it I will lose my job.
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When I first went off ill, I didn't want my employer to know why so the doctor put investigations on my line.
After a month I was called into a meeting at work to find out why I was off. I completely broke down, which Is something they had never seen me do. I expected a lot of grief from them but have the opposite. I have no pressure to return to work and they don't call me which stops me stressing that way.
Work in general have talked about redundancies before I went off, and I reckon I'll be first out. However because of my history now they will find that complicated.
I would just go along the lines of the warning and say you would like to explain a few points about it and take it from there.
I kept sleeping in for work all the time, and was pulled aside by a manager to discuss. I told her then I had depression and I don't sleep well. She retorted, walking out the door, wait until you have kids then you will know what tired is.